3 Tips To Communicating Well - Tip 2 | Ep. 134

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage, Awesomemarriagepodcast, Marriagepodcast, Awesomemarriage, Marriageadvice, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Christianmarriage, Christianity

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 9 November 2017

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

This week we are going to give you tips to better communicate with your spouse. We will be discussing 3 tips to communicating well in marriage. Dr. Kim and Christina discuss the 2nd tip today: focus more on listening and understanding than defending and make your point.

Tune in to learn why defending and asserting your point won’t benefit your marriage!

Be sure to tune in tomorrow as well to learn the 3rd tip to communicating well!

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and how to have the relationship that God has designed for you.
0:09.7	I am your co-host, Christina Dodson.
0:11.9	On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kim, Kimberling and Nill Smith.
0:15.6	To engage with the Awesome Marriage podcast, use the hashtag Awesome Marriage.
0:21.1	So today, in continuation of our mini series on three tips to communicating well
0:25.7	in marriage, today is tip number two, which is focus more on listening and understanding
0:30.9	than defending and making your point.
0:33.4	So Dr. Kim, why do you think we have such a hard time truly listening?
0:38.2	One, I think we, I think part of it's just the culture we live in. We don't focus very long,
0:43.1	very well, most of us anytime. You just see that, you see that. And you hear pastors talk about,
0:49.3	you know, how long should my sermon be? Because how long can I expect people to focus?
0:53.0	You know, and when, and most people DVR stuff or now,
0:57.0	but I mean, used to you, you'd say, okay, how long is it for first commercial break? Okay,
1:01.3	they can listen for 12 minutes and then they're used to having a break. So, you know,
1:05.0	what do you do, you know, to keep people engaged? So I think that, and then I think we have so many distractions now. I mean, we talk about a lot.
1:11.4	We've talked about technology. We talk about, you know, just there's so many ways we can distract
1:16.8	ourselves. And sometimes I think we don't value listening in a relationship as much as we should,
1:23.7	you know, that it really makes a huge difference when I know that Nancy's listens to me
1:28.7	and she knows that I listen to her. It draws us close to her together, it connects us more,
1:33.8	and I think we have to value listening because I think most of us have to really focus on it.
1:38.6	You know, I've given the stat before, and I can't remember where the research came from,
1:41.6	that you can listen five times faster than someone can speak. So you've got a lot of extra time as a listener, and you can't know where the research came from, that you can listen five times faster than someone
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