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The Mel Robbins Podcast

3 Things You Need to Accept About Other People

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.615.3K Ratings

🗓️ 12 December 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Today you and I are digging into three things you must accept about other people. It took me years to understand these truths. It sounds horrible, but I always wondered, “What’s wrong with people? Why don’t they change?” I know you can relate. Because today I’m taking your questions about trying to change other people. You’re frustrated by the fact that your spouse or partner won’t exercise more. You get angry seeing how much money your daughter wastes going out every weekend. You’re annoyed by how stubborn your parents have become the older they get. Me too. I’ve tried every tactic you can imagine to get other people to change. And recently I realized the true source of my frustration: It’s not them, it’s me. I’m refusing to accept three things. These things are hard to accept, and they’re true. Once you hear them and you apply them to your life, your relationships will be way easier. In addition to the three truths about other people, you’ll learn research that explains why it’s so hard to get other people to change. And like all episodes, this one is packed with tactical advice and takeaways that you can put to use immediately. And, if you’re the one who’s busy making changes but your loved ones are not being supportive, I answer that question from a listener, too. I feel compelled to answer your questions because so many of you are improving your life with the tools you’re learning on this podcast and your family is starting to get annoyed with you. That’s okay. It shows you’re making progress (but it doesn’t make it easy). Hopefully today’s episode will. Xo Mel Key lessons: 3:12: 3 powerful truths you have to accept about people. 4:33: Rule #1 explained 6:02: How do you deal with people who don’t want to change? 9:00: Why some people can’t change. 12:42: I’m embarrassed to tell you this story. 19:49: Rule #2 explained 20:37: Rule #3 explained 21:44: My “6-month rule” for any complainer 32:03: What do when the people around you don’t support the changes you’re making 40:23: The science of “Myside bias” and what it says about human nature For full show notes, go to melrobbins.com/podcast Do you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I’ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to an absolutely unbelievable episode of the Mel Robbins

0:09.1

podcast.

0:11.4

I'm so fired up to talk to you today not only because we are going to talk about the three

0:19.5

things that you need to accept about other people.

0:22.3

These are things I need to accept to.

0:24.1

These are not easy things to accept but trust me when you accept these truths, it's going

0:28.6

to make your life easier.

0:30.7

I often think about how many years of my life I have wasted being frustrated with other

0:35.4

people.

0:36.9

Truly, wishing they would change, wanting them to change, trying to make them change.

0:41.7

I've tried manipulating people.

0:43.7

I've tried bribing people.

0:45.5

I've tried, like I'm talking with like a box of Legos or something.

0:48.5

I've tried motivating people.

0:50.2

I've tried inspiring people.

0:52.9

The fact of the matter is you can do all those things.

0:56.6

But if somebody doesn't want to, they won't.

0:59.0

If somebody can't, then they won't.

1:02.1

So what you're going to hear today is you're going to hear listeners of the Mel Robbins

1:06.4

podcast asking questions on this topic.

1:09.7

We are going to jump in and unpack these three truths that you got to accept.

1:16.2

I got to accept about other people.

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