I have found it to be the most transformative mindset that I've ever come across and that I've ever implemented into my life.

Hey there. I'm Matt Diabella and welcome to my short form podcast, Three Rules.

Each episode, I ask a guest to share three rules that help them find success and happiness.

Today I'm joined by Mark Manson, the number one New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

His books have sold more than 20 million copies, been translated into more than 65 languages, and have reached number one in more than a dozen countries.

Thanks so much for coming on the show. It's great to be here. What's rule number one for you?

Rule number one, it has to be I'm responsible for everything in my life, whether or not it's my fault.

I feel like this is the core of my work, essentially.

Anybody who's read my books is going to be very familiar with this.

And it's, I have found it to be the most transformative mindset that I've ever come across and that I've ever

implemented into my life. It's the underlying basis of everything. Until you accept that you are

responsible for the things in your life, you're not, you don't feel empowered to actually do

anything about it. Does this extend to things that you might not be responsible for, like things that happen

to you?

When can we start blaming other people?

Everything basically.

So I have this thing that I call the responsibility fault fallacy.

And it's basically like people assume that fault and responsibility are the same thing,

but I think they're actually very subtly different and they're different in very important ways.

So let's say I walk into the street here in Sydney and like most Americans, I forget what side of the road the cars are on and I get hit by one.

Now, it might not be my fault that I got hit by the car,

but it is absolutely my responsibility to recover from the injury,

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