3 Mistakes Couples Make After an Argument That Keep the Issue Unresolved: Episode 160
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 25 May 2021
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
How do you two tend to act after an argument? If you don't have a solid repair process, you likely are keeping the issue lingering and unresolved. When this happens you can lose trust in each other, erode love and connection, and just turn this into an emotional trigger for the future.
In today's episode, we'll cover 3 mistakes that couples make after an argument, and you'll likely find that you have done all 3! But we also share what you need to do INSTEAD to truly close the loop on the conversation.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:05.6 | advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team |
| 0:11.5 | no matter the challenge that you face. |
| 0:13.0 | I am one of your hosts, Erin Freeman. |
| 0:14.5 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:17.7 | And this episode is about three mistakes couples make after an argument that keep the |
| 0:23.3 | issue unresolved. Oh yeah. So think about right now the last disagreement that you had afterwards. |
| 0:30.5 | What did you do? What was your process? How did you act? And you're probably going to resonate |
| 0:35.1 | with all three mistakes that we cover today. |
| 0:38.3 | You know, where we got this idea was last night we led our free web class on conflict repair, |
| 0:43.3 | and it was amazing. |
| 0:45.3 | People were interacting a ton, asking great questions, and said the principles we gave really made a difference. |
| 0:51.3 | And when we opened it up and we were creating context, there were some big |
| 0:55.9 | mistakes that people saw they make that they didn't even kind of realize they were doing or |
| 1:01.7 | they just thought it was going to always keep going that way. So we wanted to address those |
| 1:05.8 | mistakes and we'll also give you what to do instead of the mistake because the repair process is that important. |
| 1:13.5 | And in fact, we said this line last night. |
| 1:16.2 | What you do after an argument will either create emotional baggage or emotional healing for you too. |
| 1:24.9 | Do you want to carry baggage with you that gets heavier and heavier and |
| 1:28.4 | heavier or do you want to create healing, connection, repair, and make sure that there isn't any |
| 1:34.8 | clutter between you two? Yeah, because when you have this baggage or this now backpack, |
| 1:40.5 | invisible backpack on, what does that now become? Well, an emotional trigger to then come up in the future |
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