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ADHD reWired

299 | November Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8937 Ratings

🗓️ 3 December 2019

⏱️ 72 minutes

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Summary

Today's episode is our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you the listener about situations that you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional, we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Our questions today are about walking the line between self-care and coddling, how to manage the anger of your ADHD diagnosis, breastfeeding and ADHD medicines, and the guilt when you chose to stop breastfeeding to get back on track. They discuss a question about self-regulating with a focus on how to handle active real emotions management instead of losing your mind and some tricks they use to alleviate the stress. The last question today is about letting people know you've been diagnosed with ADHD and how to handle the feelings of coming out. Please note that when we discuss medications, we can only address personal experience. Anytime you have been prescribed a drug. You should reach out to your provider regarding your symptoms and experiences. Not all medications are useful for all people. There are a variety of options, and you'll need individual help to determine which medicines are right for you. We cover a wide range of topics, and we provide some creative takeaways no matter what stage you're in with your diagnosis. Listen in as we not only discuss your questions but also the struggle we still have dealing with our ADHD. Your Resources: ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [02:03] Welcome to the show Brendan and Will for our monthly Q & A. [02:30] They discuss their thoughts on a viewer's question about self-care vs. coddling. [08:12] Ways to know the difference between the two. [12:05] A view wants to know how to handle the anger of diagnosed with ADHD. [13:20] The team speaks about how they are managing and tips that might help. [18:08] The external thoughts that go through your mind when getting the actual diagnosis of ADHD. [29:41] A mom's question about breastfeeding and the meds to control ADHD. [31:35] They ask questions about her doctor and the meds that are safe to take. [34:16] The guilt when you decide to stop breastfeeding in favor of the meds. [37:01] You can bond with your baby even if you don't breastfeed. [42:22] The second child is not more relaxed than the first one. [44:48] A question about how to self regulate and how to handle strong physical reactions without losing your shit. [44:49] Eric gives us ways he handles his responses. [47:30] Can you remove yourself from the situation? [49:45] Will talks about what works for him when he needs to manage his emotions. [56:29] How did you tell people about your diagnosis? Did it feel like a coming out? [01:00:25] Brendon gives ideas on how to say to people that you have ADHD. [01:04:13] Do you have a community that will support you? Friends, neighbors, or coworkers? [01:06:26] Thank you to the listeners for submitting the questions for today's show. [01:06:33] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon. ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th. We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit coachingrewired.com to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT. You don't want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired. ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/community and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.

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a way to differentiate between self-care and sort of coddling numbing stuff is self-care can take on more than one form.

0:06.8

So if you're like I'm just watching some Netflix and that's my self-care or I'm playing some video games and that's my self-care you could replace

0:14.8

that with a walk around the block and it would still be self-care but if you are

0:20.0

disinclined to replace that with an alternative option, you're probably coddling, especially if

0:26.0

the other option is something that is active, right? Or it causes you to engage in some way.

0:32.8

It doesn't have to be taking a walk or going to the gym.

0:34.7

It could be journaling.

0:35.9

But if you're just can't find the motivation to do that,

0:39.9

one of two things is happening.

0:41.2

Either you are wicked-fried and you absolutely need to sit back

0:44.8

and watch some Netflix and you'll feel that.

0:47.4

Or you're avoiding and you're kind of falling into like

0:50.8

the dull drums of coddling.

0:53.0

ADHD, rewired episode 299.

0:59.0

This is the podcast for those of us

1:01.0

with really good intentions and a slightly wandering attention.

1:04.8

I'm America Tavares. I'm a licensed clinical social worker by training and a coach by design.

1:09.6

I'm your host and I have ADHD.

1:11.6

ADHD rewired is more than just a podcast.

1:15.0

We are a community.

1:16.0

We are wired for connection

1:18.0

and you are not alone.

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