296: 7 Secrets Of Making Relationships Last (Proven by Experts!)

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 14 May 2025

⏱️ 85 minutes

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Summary

Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you’re in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last.

In this episode:

Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last.
The Gottman Institute on bids for connection, and the 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.
The toxic buildup of micro-resentments—and how to address them early.
How to repair arguments when one person wants space and the other wants closeness.
Relationship “hacks” you’ve never heard of (including love mapping and emotional buttons).
Why “perfect” couples still argue—and how to argue better.
The Michelangelo Effect: how great couples help each other grow.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello Stephen, hello Audrey.
0:05.8	Hello Pod Squad.
0:07.5	Welcome back, Stephen, from London.
0:09.4	I'm back for this one's birthday.
0:13.1	Yeah.
0:14.2	How do you feel?
0:15.2	I feel good.
0:16.0	Do you guys want to hear my toxic birthday trait?
0:18.1	Okay.
0:19.2	What I do is I don't want people to make a fuss of me on my birthday.
0:22.1	So I don't tell people it's my birthday.
0:24.1	I don't talk about it.
0:25.3	I don't share it.
0:26.2	No one knows.
0:27.1	And then my birthday rolls around.
0:28.7	And, you know, most people don't know it's my birthday because I've not told them.
0:32.5	And of course, how would anyone know unless you tell them?
0:34.7	I'm just finding out right now. And and then what happens
0:38.7	I get then I get really sad that no one's made a fuss of me. Oh that is so toxic. That is so,
0:44.2	so toxic. A little bit but it's like you know, can't have it always. So this year I've made a real
0:50.0	effort to mention to people that it's my birthday in passing so that people send me a text.
0:56.6	And I think people relate to this trait of like not wanting a fuss to be made of them,
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