Okay, today's episode, you're just getting me because Neil and I tried actually to sit down

and report this episode, but he is still recovering from pneumonia. And for whatever reason,

today, his cough has kind of like kicked back up and he couldn't get through a sentence without coughing.

So it's just me. And we're going to talk about holiday boundaries again. I know that we talked

about this last year, but I've got maybe some new points to bring up and some new things to

discuss. Honestly, I feel like this could be a conversation every year

around the holidays because it's timely. It affects most of us. And, you know, there's always

things that we could use a refresher on. I feel like I could talk about this every year and

remind myself, like that's the thing about these topics too, is when I prepare to do a podcast

episode, I remind myself of things where I'm like, oh, yeah, that's right. That is the principle

here. That is what I need to remember. So this might be a little more of a mini episode, but hopefully

it's packed with things that are really helpful for you. So the reason I thought of this, too, is because I posted a reel the other day where I was

talking about healthy boundaries and some space that you can give yourself if you know you're

going to be around in-laws for an extended period of time.

And it triggered some people.

It triggered some moms, some mother-in-laws, who, you know, felt hurt by the

idea of maybe their daughter-in-law is not wanting to spend the entire holiday season with

them or like an entire week during a holiday or whatever. And so there's a few things that I

want to go into with that.

And the number one, the first thing would be like, are boundaries selfish?

Because this comment was actually deleted, but there was someone who was talking about, like,

kind of saying something along the lines of like boundaries are selfish or these ideas are selfish. And my selfish daughter-in-law has caused a lot of

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