Our guest today is a 32-year-old cis woman. She is white, but also Latina.

A bisexual, polyamorous person who has been married for eight years. She loves talking about

relationship dynamics. Me too. She loves the fluidity of sexuality and relationships, curiosity, and exploration,

especially when in long-term relationships. I am so excited to talk today. An artist and illustrator

originally from California, now living in Nashville, Tennessee. Welcome, Alan. So I would

actually love to hear how you learned about sex. You know, we heard that you've

listened to podcasts. I would love to hear if you have any specific favorite podcasts you learn from,

but like, you know, include what messages did you get growing up? Did you get a sex ed talk?

Did you talk about it with friends? And then take us through any experience. I mean,

you've given us the

relational background of your experiences, but I would love to hear the formative things that have

contributed to your sexual learnings. Yeah. Well, you know, I had the typical you learn about

like what your body is doing when you're in like sixth grade but like you're not I didn't

I didn't internalize any of that information I understood I had ovaries and that they was going to bleed but

not so much about any of the sex stuff and then as I got older and like middle school high school I think a lot of

because I grew up like I was in middle school in like 2007. So a little bit before,

I think MySpace was just a thing that I don't like it was, there was not a lot of internet

interneting for me quite yet. So there was a lot of reading books that I didn't understand

were going to be smutty because the cover looked so colorful and fun. And then you read

and you're like, why did I just read? I'm like, please tell me the books. I wish I could remember

them. I kind of feel like it's one of those things where I'm like, if I ever see the cover of it,

I'm going to be like, enshrined to you. Thank you for introducing me to things. Yeah. Yeah.

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