292 SelfWork Do You Stay In Emotional Chaos? How DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) Can Help
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 15 July 2022
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Back when I was busy creating my own emotional chaos, my therapists used CBT therapy (cognitive behavioral therapy) and family systems therapy – both of which were very helpful to me. But today, we’re taking a dive into a therapy I wish had existed then ... DBT or dialectical behavior therapy. Why? Because DBT teaches distinct tools for those whose decision-making is highly governed by their intense emotions. And those tools are not only practical, but practice-able.
What I learned when I took that dive was that the tools of DBT are immense! And there are way too many of them for one episode! So, we’re going to focus on one aspect of DBT – the role of distress tolerance - which is one of the four modules of DBT.
The listener voicemail today is from a woman who’s confused because her husband has told her he no longer has feelings for her -especially sexual feelings – and she doesn’t know what to do. I’ll do my best to offer some ideas..
This episode is once again sponsored by BetterHelp, consistently rated as one of the best online therapy opportunities out there. And I checked and here’s an article by BH on finding a DBT therapist – and they offer tremendous ideas! But today, they have an offer for SelfWork listeners!
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Follow along with this episode by clicking on the info from this DBT great website to learn more about DBT!
A wonderful article on BetterHelp on how to find a DBT-certified therapy near you!
General information from Psych Central on DBT.
A SelfWork episode on radical acceptance… and wow, it’s from almost 100 episodes ago!!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.7 | Hello and welcome, or welcome back to Selfwork. |
| 0:32.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford, I'm a clinical psychologist, and I've lived and worked in |
| 0:36.8 | Favell, Arkansas for almost 30 years. |
| 0:39.8 | But I began Selfwork about six years ago now to try to extend the walls of my practice |
| 0:44.4 | to those of you who might already be very interested in psychological and emotional issues. |
| 0:49.3 | Maybe you're in therapy already and would love another opinion. |
| 0:52.8 | Perhaps those of you who've just been diagnosed with something and you're looking for answers |
| 0:56.6 | or maybe you're having a problem in your life that some of my episodes might address, |
| 1:01.7 | but I also am reaching out to a third group of you. |
| 1:05.5 | To those of you who think therapy is kind of a strange thing to do. |
| 1:09.8 | In fact, if not, strange, just downright weak. |
| 1:13.8 | And I want to tell you stories about people I've seen. |
| 1:16.5 | I want to explain to you what therapy really is so that you can make a more informed decision. |
| 1:22.4 | I'm not trying to change your mind exactly. |
| 1:25.2 | But I think by listening to someone who hopefully you will think is rational and make some good |
| 1:30.2 | points, you might reconsider going to therapy yourself. |
| 1:33.4 | Now, Selfwork is not therapy. |
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