Hello and welcome to the Mindful Kind podcast.

I'm your host, Rachel Cable, author of the Mindfulkind book, Mindfulness Teacher and blogger at RachelCable.com.

Each week this podcast will bring meaningful tips, tools and strategies so you can manage stress and live more mindfully in the modern world.

Hello and welcome to episode 291 of the Mindful Kind podcast.

I hope you're well in having a great week so far.

First of all, I just want to say a huge thank you to everyone who share their kind feedback

about the previous episode of The Mindful Kind, number 290, called Having a Rough Day,

here's some reassurance. It sounds like so many of you are going through challenging times

at the moment and found it helpful to receive some encouragement and compassion.

In this episode, I'm super excited to talk about a very interesting cognitive bias or thinking

error called the illusion of transparency.

Understanding the illusion of transparency can help you feel more confident, improve your

communication skills and develop stronger relationships.

So first of all, I have a question for you.

Do you ever get frustrated because you feel like your thoughts and feelings are so clear to

see, but no one else seems to notice?

You think that people around you, especially the ones

who love you and know you the best, should sense what you're thinking and know how to help.

This used to happen to me all the time. When I was younger, I wasn't very good at communicating.

I relied on other people reading me, reading my thoughts and feelings and knowing

what to do. If I was angry, I didn't want to actually say I felt angry. I just acted passively

aggressively, hoping that my boyfriend or my sibling or my friend or whoever I was with

...