290: The 3 Boxes Men Put Women In (And How to Get Out of Them)

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 2 April 2025

⏱️ 61 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive into the “box theory”—the idea that people get placed into one of three boxes when dating: "Want to date," "Just for fun," or "Not interested." But is it really that simple? And can you change boxes over time?

We break down the psychology behind first impressions in dating, whether it's possible to shift from casual to committed, and what really makes someone decide we’re ‘relationship material’.

Topics Covered:

What is the “3 Box Theory” of dating
Can someone change the box they’re in—or are they stuck?
Signs you’re being kept in the “casual” box and how to respond
Why first impressions aren’t always final in attraction
Emotional connection vs. chemistry: how to tell the difference
Dating consistency, standards, and sexual boundaries
How to communicate your relationship intentions without fear

►► Subscribe to my Brand New Love Life Podcast channel → @LoveLifePodcast

►► Ask Matthew AI for personalized advice: AskMH.com

►► Free training to go from casual to committed: GetCommitment.com

►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com

►► Email us your thoughts at [email protected]

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hey, it's Matthew A.I. How can I help?
0:07.2	Matthew A.I., could you give one piece of advice for anyone who feels like they are burning out in their dating life?
0:16.0	But could you make your answer 60 seconds or less?
0:19.6	If you're feeling burned out in your dating life, the most
0:22.6	important thing you can do is take a step back and reconnect with yourself. Dating burnout often
0:28.3	happens when we're chasing external validation or trying to force outcomes instead of focusing
0:34.1	on what truly makes us happy. So pause, ask yourself, am I enjoying the process or am I just enduring it?
0:42.3	If it feels like a grind, shift your energy toward activities that make you feel alive and
0:46.3	confident outside of dating, whether that's spending time with friends, pursuing a hobby,
0:51.3	or just taking care of your mental and physical health. When you're in a better place emotionally, you'll naturally bring a more positive energy to your
0:59.0	interactions and that's when dating starts to feel exciting again.
1:02.9	Remember, you're not just looking for someone to choose you. You're also deciding who's worth
1:07.3	your time and energy. I mean, here's the crazy part about that.
1:11.6	I was just on alive with all of our Love Life members.
1:16.6	And for the Love Life members listening, you will know this is true.
1:20.6	Someone just asked me that exact question of how to deal with dating burnout.
1:33.5	My answer was to a T, that exact answer.
1:34.1	Wow.
1:38.8	If you were on that live, email podcast at Matthewhussy.com.
1:42.8	I need verification of how uncanny that was.
1:46.2	If you haven't used Matthew A.I yet, go check it out.
1:52.1	AskMh.com is the link where you can go and ask free questions for three minutes.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Matthew Hussey, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Matthew Hussey and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.