290: How to Keep Your Identity in Relationships

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Self-improvement, Education

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🗓️ 21 October 2024

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

In today’s episode, Neil and I dive into the challenges of dating while 'staying true to yourself.' We share advice on how to avoid losing yourself in a relationship and the importance of maintaining your individuality. From discussing high school relationships to finding your person later in life, we emphasize the significance of connecting spiritually and presenting your authentic self. You’ll hear stories about navigating codependency, learning to be comfortable with who you are, and why confidence in your identity can attract the right person. If you’ve ever struggled with self-betrayal or felt the pressure to fit into a mold, this episode is for you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Today's podcast episode comes from a DM that I got.
0:16.0	This mom said, hi Corin, any suggestions for how to navigate and help my 18 year old son
0:21.6	who is in a very co-dependent relationship with his
0:24.4	17 year old girlfriend. He obviously doesn't see it but I'm afraid that he's
0:28.8	giving up so much of himself to be with only her. I read that and thought, oh that is relatable. Like for people
0:38.4	our age, either you've experienced that yourself and lived that yourself or you knew somebody who was like that in your teenage and young adolescent years.
0:50.0	Both. I think both. Yes.
0:52.0	Lived and saw that a lot.
0:55.0	And this is why both of us give the advice a lot of times to teenagers when they ask for it,
1:01.0	you know, when you're going away to college or whatever, you know, oh like what was your favorite thing or what, you know, what would you, what do you wish you would have known, you know, what would you tell me to do or whatever something along those lines I always
1:15.3	say don't get into a serious relationship because it ruins everything not
1:21.8	really but it just takes away so much fun. I had so much fun my first
1:26.2	two years of college because I didn't have a serious boyfriend. And it just opened up so many opportunities to be social and go do fun, memorable things with my friends and figure out, that is the time of your life when you're kind of figuring out who am I and what do I want to do with my life and what am I interested in and unfortunately for me I was sewing seeds of codependency even in amidst that because you know I found myself
1:56.5	suddenly on this college campus and I'm looking around and everyone is beautiful and
2:01.3	funny and spiritual and inspiring and double majoring and running marathons and you know
2:09.0	sings and plays the piano and the guitar and the violin and I just felt like everyone was so overly
2:14.2	talented and perfect and amazing that I started to try to mold myself into something that I thought a guy would want, unfortunately.
2:26.0	So, but at the same time, those first two years of college, I made so many great memories
2:31.8	and had so much fun because I wasn't tied down to a serious
2:35.3	relationship and the relationship isn't necessarily what's wrong with the situation.
2:42.2	It's usually the person's reaction. what's
2:43.0	wrong with the situation. It's usually the person's reaction to that relationship,
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