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This American Life

289: Go Ask Your Father

This American Life

This American Life

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4.6 • 88.8K Ratings

🗓️ 15 June 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

In honor of Father’s Day, stories of sons and daughters finding out the one thing they've always wanted to know about their father. The answers aren't always what they’d hoped for.

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  • Prologue: As a kid, Aric Knuth sent cassette tapes to his dad, a merchant marine gone for months at a time. He’d leave one side blank and ask for a reply—but none ever came. Aric talks to Ira Glass about what it was like to finally ask his dad why. (7 minutes)
  • Act One: Lennard Davis was always told to avoid his no-good Uncle Abie. After his father died, Abie claimed he was actually Lenny’s biological father via artificial insemination. At first, the story seemed possible, then doubtful. It took Lenny more than 20 years to sort out whether it was true, and he finds out the answer—definitively—as tape is rolling. (31 minutes)
  • Act Two: Paul Tough’s father was a mild-mannered professor—until he suddenly left the family to pursue a lifelong quest: making contact with extraterrestrial life. For the first time, Paul joins him and asks the questions he’s long kept to himself about his father’s alien pursuits. (18 minutes)

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0:00.0

I'm WVEZ Chicago. It's This American Life.

0:03.7

Hi, Dad. How are you doing?

0:07.7

I'm doing fine.

0:10.1

When Eric was a kid, his dad would leave for six months at a time.

0:13.2

He was in the Merchant Marines.

0:14.6

He'd be in Guam or Scotland or God knows where.

0:17.4

And Eric would record these cassettes.

0:19.4

Send them off to him.

0:22.3

Um, have you been in the desert?

0:25.7

Did the Easter bunny send you an Easter basket?

0:29.9

If he did, you better make sure there's no lizards in it.

0:36.1

Dad, when are you going to be coming back up to stay?

0:43.6

I'm anxious to see you or at least hear your voice.

0:49.8

Yeah, send me a tape, Dad.

0:55.1

His request that his father record a tape for him

0:57.7

is repeated over and over again on these tapes.

1:00.5

Here's Eric probably four years later on another tape in seventh grade.

1:04.2

His hope that his dad would respond was so great

1:06.1

that every cassette that he sent, he would only record on one side.

1:10.0

The other side was blank for his dad to fill in and send back.

1:13.4

Never did, though.

1:15.1

You can use this tape to send me...

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