#287: Breaking Free from Codependency with Melody Beattie

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 5 June 2023

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Themes: Codependency, Addiction, Relationships, Boundaries, Technology, Social Media, Spirituality, Self- Love, Healing, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Mental Health, Grief Summary: Today I am jamming with self-help pioneer, Melody Beattie! Melody is the author of many bestselling books—including The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and The Codependent No More Workbook. In 2009, Codependent No More was named one of the four essential self-help books of all time by Newsweek. Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Join us today as we jam about the ins and outs of codependency in relationships, the challenges faced by those stuck in addictive or enabling cycles, the importance of setting boundaries, and how to break free. Discover: Melody's incredible journey of overcoming codependency and how she turned her life around, finding freedom and happiness along the way What codependency actually means, and how people can unknowingly fall into its trap The importance of setting boundaries with technology and social media, and why connecting with real people is where it's at for our well-being Tips and tricks to break free from addictive and enabling cycles, empowering yourself to make positive changes and embark on a journey of personal growth and healing 00:00 Intro 00:33 The fine line between being human and a codependent 04:06 How writing ‘Codependent No More’ saved her life 12:31 The role of men and women in relationships 17:58 Healing the division 24:00 Choose your own circumstance 28:21 Boundaries for tech and social media 32:42 Unveiling collective codependency 38:02 Trauma reflecting in present-day anxiety 40:22 How to break free 46:38 Learn to love yourself unconditionally 49:26 There’s nothing human about technology Links: Book: Codependent No More (2022 updated edition!) https://melodybeattie.com/books/codependent-no-stop-controlling-others-start-caring/ Website: https://melodybeattie.com/ Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	The truth is most of us can barely control ourselves. We cannot control other people. I mean,
0:06.7	it is, I think, the ultimate human dilemma, even if we're right and they're wrong, even if they'd be
0:12.5	happy if they did what we said. We can't make up to it.
0:20.4	Hi, my name is Mark Groves and I'm obsessed with understanding human behavior and why we do what we do.
0:26.5	In this podcast, I interview the world's most brilliant minds and hearts where I get to explore alongside you,
0:32.3	every subject you can imagine relating to our human experience and how we relate.
0:36.1	It is my deepest intention that we
0:38.2	all learn how to create the life and love that we've always dreamt of. Now before we get rolling,
0:43.1	make sure you hit that subscribe button so you don't miss any episodes. And one ask that I have
0:47.4	and an amazing way that you can help support the podcast is by wherever you listen to it,
0:51.5	giving it a five-star review and a written review. With all that said,
0:55.1	let's dive in and transform our lives. Welcome back to another episode of the Mark Groves podcast.
1:01.6	Today, I am joined by exceptional author, Melody Beattie. Welcome. Thank you. I'm happy to be here.
1:08.9	I'm happy to have learned enough about technology to actually be here on time. That makes me you. I'm happy to be here. I'm happy to have learned enough about technology to actually
1:12.2	be here on time. That makes me happy. I learned that during COVID. Well, I appreciate you taking the
1:18.5	time to do that because your book, Co-dependent No More touched my life. Oh my gosh, probably about
1:25.0	eight years ago. And I felt like no one had put in such succinct words what that dynamic really is like.
1:33.8	I know that that terminology originally sort of formed in Al-Anon.
1:39.7	And so I was just so grateful that you took what was an obvious pattern relationally.
1:47.8	It made it consumable for people who weren't just dealing with an alcoholic.
1:51.5	So thanks for putting those words on a page. I did it very selfishly to save my own life.
1:56.2	It's so easy to drown in other people's stuff, to just start drowning and not even know what's
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