286: How to Let Go of Comparison? Heal Thyself
The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style
Shannon Ables
4.7 • 944 Ratings
🗓️ 7 September 2020
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
"Comparison is the death of joy." ― Mark Twain
The thief of joy, if Mark Twain is right, is of our own making.
The good news in this revelation reveals each of us can take back our joy.
Comparing ourselves to others occurs consciously and unconsciously. Consciously, we may be acutely aware that we follow certain people on social media to see how we are doing in relation; unconsciously, when we choose not to speak up to set a boundary, when we set a checklist for our life delineating what should happen by what age.
Each of these three are examples of many more of unhelpful comparison, and while comparison is a primal instinct for survival, the good news evolution and civil society have provided the opportunity and arguably the necessity for each of us of to offer the world our unique talents rather than limiting ourselves to remain part of the herd or tribe.
The habit of comparison is a learned skill, and therefore, it can be unlearned; however, it must be a conscious choice to do so. Fundamentally, when we compare ourselves with others, some part of us believes we are not enough or needs to be reassured that we are enough just as we are.
Today, I will be examining five areas of our lives in which comparison can creep in and become destructive to contentment and living a fulfilling life, and then share how to let go of such comparing with the outside world.
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| 0:32.8 | Now to today's episode. Welcome to the Simple Sophisticate Podcast, where intelligent living is paired with |
| 0:49.2 | signature style. I'm your host Shannon Ables and whether you're listening on your commute |
| 0:54.7 | exercising working in the garden or sitting down with a hot cup of tea or a cafe |
| 1:00.0 | LA thank you for tuning in. Let's get started. Welcome to the 286th episode of the simple sophisticated and welcome to the start of the seventh season of the show. |
| 1:25.8 | Today's episode is going to be inspired from a book that I've been wanting to read for quite some time and I dove into it this summer and then |
| 1:36.3 | drove into it a little bit more at the end of the summer. |
| 1:40.2 | And I just felt with all of our time online, especially now in the world we live in for all |
| 1:47.3 | sorts of reasons, that this might be helpful to help navigate successfully and productively into this new fall season where many of us, |
| 1:57.0 | our schedules are ramping up but in a different way and so we're adding new stresses into |
| 2:00.8 | our life. |
| 2:01.8 | But also by incorporating this discussion into our lives, we hopefully |
| 2:06.7 | will deepen our contentment and find a peace that may seem elusive or impossible to attain but actually can be attained if we have the right |
| 2:16.7 | ideas and the tools to attain it. |
| 2:22.0 | What am I talking about? I'm talking about comparison, comparing ourselves |
| 2:25.3 | with other people, anything outside of ourselves. So what we're going to talk about |
| 2:29.9 | today is how do we let go of that comparison? And in a simple general answer, it is to heal ourselves. |
| 2:38.0 | In the title I wrote, Heel thyself, but it is truly this powerful choice to realize so much of what can create more |
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