282 SelfWork: Watching My Mother Disappear
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 6 May 2022
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
This is a very personal episode of SelfWork, as I tell the story of my mother's intense struggles with anxiety - and her turning to prescription drugs to help her cope. Sadly, doctors in the 1960's brushed off women with "nerves" and handed out medications that were not only strong, but addictive. And some women, like my mother, developed a prescription drug addiction. This is the story of how the mother that I knew - that many people loved and admired - became a shadow of herself, as we all watched the woman we knew disappear.
I think she would want you to know her story. She once told me, "I wish I'd known what I was doing to myself." Maybe her story can help you or someone you love. For it still can happen, although the medical profession has realized the damage of opioid overprescription - and are hopefully analyzing anxiolytics and other addictive medications closely for abuse, over-dependence, and prescriptive issues.
BetterHelp has sponsored this episode - and I so wish that my own mother had sought therapy. Maybe that's why I became a therapist. Who knows...
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.8 | Hello and welcome, or welcome back to Selfwork. |
| 0:32.8 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:34.0 | I'm a clinical psychologist, and I've lived and worked in Favell, Arkansas for almost |
| 0:38.4 | 30 years. |
| 0:39.4 | I can't believe it. |
| 0:40.6 | And I started Selfwork about five and a half years ago to extend the walls of my practice |
| 0:45.2 | to those of you who might already be extremely interested in psychological or emotional |
| 0:49.4 | mental issues. |
| 0:50.9 | Maybe you're in therapy to those of you who might just have been diagnosed with something |
| 0:55.3 | or there's a problem either with you as an individual or in your relationship that |
| 1:00.4 | you're having struggles with, but also to a third group of you, to those of you who |
| 1:06.2 | might think therapy is really kind of questionable to be kind. |
| 1:14.0 | And you don't really think it works. |
| 1:16.4 | I love it. |
| 1:17.4 | Seen from Ted Lasso, where he at first confronts the therapist and says, I just think it's |
| 1:23.3 | a bunch of deep bullshit and I don't agree with it and he walks out and she just kind |
| 1:28.1 | of looks at him and then eventually he comes back and recognizes the value of actually |
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