281 The Bully in Your Brain: How ADHDers Can Quiet Their Inner Critic
I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
4.8 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 17 September 2024
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
This episode is personal for me. Over the past six months, I’ve explored the ADHDer's inner critic intensively, drawing insights from influential books like “Healing the Shame That Binds You,” “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,” and “Rethinking Adult ADHD.” While the inner critic isn’t a formal symptom of ADHD, it profoundly impacts those of us with the disorder.
In this episode, we start by examining how negative self-talk, often rooted in childhood criticism and toxic relationships, affects adults with ADHD. This inner critic can lead to self-hate and hypervigilance, causing toxic shame and hindering personal growth. I share my own struggles with shame rumination and the challenge of cultivating a positive inner voice, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion.
To combat negative self-talk, I suggest strategies like journaling, verbalizing criticisms, and using thought-stopping techniques. Recognizing and documenting positive aspects of life can foster a healthier self-perception. Additionally, support systems like trauma-informed therapy and specialized coaching programs play a vital role in managing the inner critic and associated shame.
Managing the inner critic is challenging but achievable with the right strategies and support systems. Want my help? Join FOCUSED for an entire course with a step-by-step process on how ADHDers can quiet their inner critic.
Here are the 2 studies I mention In the episode:
Peer Functioning in Children with ADHD
Peer victimization in children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement and |
| 0:11.1 | coaching for adults with ADHD. I'm your host Kristen Carter and I have ADHD. and challenges of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder. |
| 0:27.0 | I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B. |
| 0:35.0 | Hey what's up? |
| 0:36.0 | This is Kristen Carter and you've tuned into the I Have 8th D |
| 0:39.5 | podcast. |
| 0:40.5 | I am medicated, caffeinated, and ready to roll and today we're going to talk about that mean |
| 0:46.4 | voice in your head. We're going to talk about how to quiet the inner critic. But before we do, please make sure to like, subscribe, turn on |
| 0:56.9 | notifications, do all the things. Don't forget that if you have ADHD, your |
| 1:02.0 | working memory really sucks |
| 1:03.7 | and you might watch this episode or listen to this episode, |
| 1:06.6 | love it and then forget that it exists. |
| 1:09.8 | So make sure to like and subscribe so that every Tuesday I am back here in your feed with |
| 1:15.7 | another episode. I want to know if you have had the experience of shaming yourself, yourself up being a jerk to yourself pretty |
| 1:25.5 | much all day long or getting trapped in a shame spiral. That is so distracting. It's so hard to function when that happens and it is a common experience for those of us with it HD. |
| 1:39.4 | I want to let you know that I've been studying how to quiet the inner critic for the last six |
| 1:45.6 | is months for myself and also to help my clients in my coaching program and the three |
| 1:51.2 | books that have been the most helpful to me are John Bradshaw's |
| 1:55.1 | healing the shame that binds you. This book was a shockingly good read and really really helpful to me and I've implemented a ton of his tools |
| 2:08.0 | into my own coaching. Next up we have a complex PTSD from surviving to thriving by Pete Walker. |
| 2:15.0 | This book was recommended to me probably 97 times before I finally broke down and read it |
| 2:20.4 | and it is so good. I wish I hadn't waited so long so I highly recommend it and then |
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