The following content is not suitable for children. So many people even when they come to therapy,

George, and get to a better sex life, there's a lot of things to forgive. There might be years

of their sex life that wasn't so good. And right when they get what they want, though, that

resentment, that sorrow of not having had it comes up and there's a difficulty in accepting,

wow, we weren't there for a long time and how do we help people learn to forgive

what either didn't happen in their sex life or parts of their sex life, maybe things that

their partner doesn't want to do. That's what I want to talk about. All right. Morning sounds really fun.

Welcome to For Play Radio. Couples in Sex Therapy. I'm Lori Watson and your sex therapist.

And I'm George Fallon, the Couples Therapist. And we are passionate about talking about sex

and helping you develop a way to talk to each other. Our mission is to help our audience develop

a healthier relationship to sex that integrates the mind, the heart, and the body.

We had a listener, a long time listener who wrote us a note and thank you so much. You know who you

are. I appreciate it. You've given us comments throughout the years and that's been great. We have

a couple people who consistently comment and I do read every email that comes in. I try to respond

to most of them. I don't get there all the time, but your feedback helps guide us. So we definitely

appreciate it. But this listener says, I love what you've been doing on the podcast lately.

In the past, you've talked about grieving for sex acts that we want, but just aren't on the

table for our partners. Can you please do a show about how exactly we go through that grieving process?

I want to let go of things that I want, but my partner doesn't want. I'm worried it's causing her

in the relationship, which means more to me than the sex acts in question.

Wow. Yeah. Big picture. Big picture. You know what it makes me think about Laurie is.

So let's get practical. Okay. You know, I get a lot of this with my couples where say the wife

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