I didn't think I'd meet a tall, fine Caribbean black man that would be okay being in a relationship while his girlfriend also explores other men until I met a tall, fine Caribbean black man in a relationship with a woman who was fine if she decided to explore other men.

Welcome back to another Selfish Babe podcast.

Selfish Babe, it is your girl, Olenike, Osibawale.

And today I want to tell you about the time God showed me that what I want is possible, right?

And it's not like I didn't really think it was possible.

I just hadn't met it.

Like, I had a desire in my heart and I wanted to

have it seen through a tall, fine Caribbean black man. And so one day, I'm going to say this and

then I'll say this story. So I met a tall fine Caribbean black man in a relationship

with the woman who was fine if she decided to explore other men. The thing is, he wasn't my

man, L.O.L. I just met him and his girlfriend for dinner one evening and as we conversed, he

shared this with me. One thing that I really enjoyed that he shared was that he really loves her

for who she is. And so because he really loves her for who she is, I think she wanted to kind of

keep the relationship open in that way. And she wanted to still be able to explore other men or even

other women. And I like the fact that he said that he was fine

with it because he loves her for her. And hearing a black, tall, fine Caribbean man say this

was really music to my ears because I know the kind of guys that I'm attracted to. And, you know,

I've been told all it's not possible. No real man is going to be able to be okay with you wanting to also be involved with other man. Like there's not a real guy that's going to do that. And if he allows you, he's a pushover. And for me, I'm like, no, this must exist. And so after having a conversation with him and his girlfriend, I literally told

him, thank you God, for showing me it is indeed possible to have what I want. Now, this was the second

black man I met that was fine with it after being told by people it wouldn't be possible.

The first black man I met, he wasn't my type. I'm not going to say he wasn't a good looking man. He just wasn't my type. And he wasn't Caribbean.

So me being able to meet a tall, fine, black Caribbean man, you know, made me really happy about this.

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