278: Erectile Dysfunction—Overcoming Anxiety with Vulnerability

Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast

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Sexuality, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 16 April 2021

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Erectile dysfunction is a common issue and can be caused by a number of reasons such as anxiety, age, medication, and physiological issues. The good thing is, ED is treatable! Anxiety is perhaps the number one reason for ED. Oftentimes the pressure of performing can become overwhelming and cause a disconnect because they are unable to relax. With unrealistic expectations that come from porn and society, men can be harsh on themselves and worry that they aren’t a good lover. Men are hindered from being in the present moment because they are concerned about their performance and focused on the “end goal” being ejaculation. But what is the goal of sex and intimacy? Is it orgasm or deep connection? The goal is to focus on the love and the connection, not the finish line. Focusing on the connection without expectations can be an excellent anecdote for anxiety. If the goal is connection, there is a beautiful opportunity to use vulnerability to come alongside parts of each other that almost never get connection. When struggling with ED, men need reassurance from their partner and know that they will be loved and wanted regardless of the outcome. Learn to let your partner in during these moments and face those fears together, not alone. There is strength in sharing fears and overcoming them together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The following content is not suitable for children.
0:02.4	George, you have emphasized to me the difficulty that men feel about having ED or a rectile dysfunction
0:11.2	more than anything I've learned in the podcast from you is just how sensitive they feel,
0:16.6	how much humiliation there is for them. And it has changed my work. I mean, I ask more,
0:21.8	I understand more. So let's talk about ED.
0:25.2	All right.
0:26.2	Welcome to ForPlay Radio. Couples in Sex Therapy. I'm Lori Watson, your sex therapist.
0:34.6	And I'm George Fallon, your couples therapist.
0:37.0	And we are passionate about talking about sex and helping you develop a way to talk to each other.
0:42.8	Our mission is to help our audience develop a healthier relationship to sex that integrates the
0:49.3	mind, the heart, and the body. So what's up in your world, man?
0:55.2	Just did a little hike in this weekend, which reminded me I'm getting older.
1:00.8	I never had to take a couple of breaks climbing a mountain, but I guess that's the side of things
1:04.7	to come about you. Yeah, we had a house guess. Everybody was vaccinated and it was really fun.
1:11.7	One of my best friends and a friend of Derek's came and we hike in a state park here,
1:16.6	I'm stead, which is just acres and acres of natural North Carolina property. And it's just beautiful.
1:24.5	And so we hiked yet. We got lost. We took a wrong turn. And my girlfriend had to get to the
1:30.5	airport. So it was this stressful thing. Like, where are we? And one of the guys starts jogging ahead.
1:36.4	I'm like, oh my gosh, she doesn't know where we're going. And he doesn't know the park. And so he
1:40.8	got lost. It was crazy. Couldn't find the car. But it was a good hike and it was lovely out there.
1:48.8	Awesome. There was nothing like this. I was with one of my sons and my wife. And you know,
1:55.2	we he was complaining a whole time. Oh, hey, yeah, should we turn around? It was pretty funny,
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