278: Boundaries in Marriage Not Working? Do This Instead!

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 18 March 2025

⏱️ 11 minutes

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Summary

Everybody knows you have to set boundaries with your husband so he won’t walk all over you.

But what if boundaries aren’t actually working? What if they’re making things worse?

That’s what happened at my house. I laid down the law, demanded change, and made my expectations clear. And you know what happened?

Distance. Defensiveness. Zero improvement.

Then I discovered three cheat phrases that work way better than boundaries ever did to get the kind of response I really wanted, more connection, tenderness, and more help around the house.

Now, I don’t even think about setting boundaries—because I don’t need to!

In this episode, I’ll share:
💡 Why my boundaries were backfiring and creating more disconnection
💡 The 3 magic phrases that inspired my husband to be more affectionate, helpful, and thoughtful
💡 How you can use these cheat phrases starting today to get a better response

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Here’s what you’ll get:

6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.
The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).
A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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0:00.0	Well, well, well, so you're trying to set some boundaries with your husband and he's just
0:05.1	ignoring them or he's ignoring you, just like my husband did. But everyone knows you have to set
0:12.1	boundaries to have a healthy relationship or he'll just walk right over you. Right? Right? That's what I thought too.
0:25.4	But then I learned these three cheat phrases that worked so much better than boundaries ever did for getting a great response from my husband, like more affection
0:31.1	and tenderness and him wanting to be with me all the time and take care of me and do things
0:36.5	to delight me like getting me this camera and of me and do things to delight me, like getting me this
0:38.0	camera and these lights and this microphone and making me this cup of tea and telling me how
0:44.5	beautiful I am today. Not to brag. Well, maybe a little. I just never think about setting a
0:54.0	boundary now because what I'm about to show you works way better
0:58.3	if you want to be treated like the queen and feel loved and desired and get help with housework
1:03.7	and finances and everything else your little heart desires. You won't be tempted to set a boundary
1:10.1	once you get your hands on the six intimacy skills,
1:13.5	which is where these three cheat phrases came from. By the way, I'm Laura Doyle, and I was the
1:20.1	perfect wife. Then I got married. Now, I'm passionate about showing women how to make their
1:26.5	marriages playful and passionate without
1:28.3	his conscious effort, even if it seems hopeless. So if you're new to the six intimacy skills
1:34.6	and you haven't read or listened to the Empowered Wife book yet, grab your free, adored wife
1:40.1	roadmap at laura doyle.org slash roadmap. One of the things I love about you is that you
1:49.5	care so much about having a great relationship and you're open to new ideas about how to make
1:54.9	yours a really, really good one. That's my favorite topic too, happy relationships. And if it
2:00.2	wasn't for you being so dedicated,
2:02.6	I wouldn't get to make podcasts like this one. So thanks for being here. I appreciate you.
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