276 | everyone's a bad choice (choosing your spouse)

Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew

Shawn Johnson + Andrew East

Society & Culture

5 • 39.8K Ratings

🗓️ 3 September 2025

⏱️ 59 minutes

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In today’s episode we talked about how "everyone's a bad choice.’ Everyone comes with flaws, baggage, and annoying habits — the trick is realizing love isn’t about finding perfection, it’s about choosing someone imperfect and choosing them again and again. We go through why we think this and would love to hear your thoughts too! Love you guys! Shawn & Andrew ▶ Home Chef is giving our listeners 50% OFF your first box, plus free shipping, AND free dessert for life. Just go to https://www.HomeChef.com/EASTFAM ▶ Head to https://www.shopbeam.com slash beam kids and get up to 50% off while supplies last! ▶Try the new GoGURT protein we talked about in this episode, it’s amazing! https://bit.ly/3HCC0BY Beam Kids is now available online at https://www.shopbeam.com/COUPLETHINGS Take advantage of our exclusive discount of up to 40% off using code COUPLETHINGS Subscribe to our newsletter ▶ https://www.familymade.com/newsletter Follow our podcast Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/shawnandandrewpods/ Follow My Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson Follow My Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@shawnjohnson Shop My LTK Page ▶ https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shawnjohnson Like the Facebook page! ▶ https://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson Follow Andrew’s Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast Andrew’s Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@andrewdeast?lang=en (00:00) why everyone is a bad choice to marry… (00:59) fan interaction of the day (02:12) jett the bull rider in the library (03:58) we’re bad choices to marry and what that means (05:55) phase 1 of marriage, the green phase (06:27) phase 2, the discovery phase (09:55) phase 3, the disappointment phase (12:24) phase 4, the rebuilding phase (14:37) phase 5, the deep love phase (18:25) phase 6, the legacy phase (21:04) the myth of the perfect person (24:16) “finessing the choice” (27:18) to know is to love (34:50) “you should be in the honeymoon always” (40:45) the trials of conflict and the power it has (42:27) what you fell in love with is what may tear you apart (46:50) love is extremely meaningful, maybe not magical (48:04) conflict leading to intimacy (51:21) you might as well try! DIG IN BABY! (53:26) forgive quickly and prioritize time (55:34) takeaways and reflections Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What's up, everybody? Welcome back to a couple things. With Sean and Andrew. Today, Andrew is so excited about this one. I am excited about this one. Why everyone is a bad choice to marry. I'm a little worried about you not speaking into the mic right now. You know what? I am a little worried about that. And if we don't capture what you have to say on this podcast, then it won't be nearly as good. I'm just, is the truth finally coming out here, Andrew? What?
0:23.6	You just thought it was't be nearly as good. I'm just, is the truth finally coming out here, Andrew?
0:23.1	What?
0:23.5	You just thought it was a bad choice to marry?
0:26.0	About the title of the episode, about how everyone's a bad choice to marry.
0:29.0	Mary?
0:30.9	We read this in a devotional or something along these lines.
0:35.2	Yes.
0:35.6	And it really struck me because I know that I was a bad choice for you to marry.
0:41.1	And here we are yet.
0:44.1	Nine and a half years in.
0:45.9	So what do you do with that?
0:47.5	You know?
0:48.1	We're going to break this down first before we get to like the punchline of it.
0:51.5	And I think you guys will agree.
0:52.9	But hang with us. First, I want to do a fan
0:58.1	interaction of the day. We had a listener who reached out and said that they saw how we named
1:04.8	our youngest child Barrett. They really liked that name. And they had a baby and named their
1:09.8	kid Barrett after Bear Bear Bear. How about that? How about that? It's pretty fun in the life that we have found ourselves doing, the community that we found ourselves having. And then we bump into these people and it's like, hey, we got the same kid's name. How about that? Yeah. What do you think about that? A little strange.
1:29.1	Yeah. I don't think it is. It's very flattering. Do you know who your parents named you after?
1:35.8	Yes. Who? Supermodel. Sean? Yeah. Really? Yeah.
1:42.3	Dang. I think it was like, I don't know if it was a supermodel, Miss America or something.
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