#275: Cracking the Code of Successful Relationships with Elizabeth Earnshaw

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 April 2023

⏱️ 68 minutes

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Themes: Dating, Relationships, Communication, Vulnerability, Boundaries, Marriage and Family Therapy, Marriage, Premarital Counseling Summary: Join in the conversation with Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT + Gottman therapist. What are the benefits of premarital counseling? How can we best deal with our partner's differences? What is the science behind flooding and its effects on emotional communication? Elizabeth shares how you can have a long-lasting relationship by consciously navigating the relationship obstacles we all experience. Elizabeth is a renowned Gottman therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy (MA), author, and influential Instagram therapist who has helped transform countless relationships. She is a co-founder and the Head of Relationship Health of OURS, a virtual premarital counseling service that provides accessible and destigmatized couples counseling for the young, modern couple. Grab your journals and soak up new skills that you can immediately implement to take your relationship to the next level! Discover: The benefits of premarital counseling How to deal with your partner’s differences The science behind flooding and its effects on emotional communication The Four Horsemen of conflict communication that most often destroy relationships and how to avoid them 00:00 Intro 01:11 Redefining traditional premarital counseling with OURS 05:41 Navigating perpetual differences in relationships 09:19 Finding richness in our differences 12:49 Overcoming resistance to premarital conversations 18:22 Flooding and its effects on emotional communication 22:15 How to have difficult conversations 27:52 Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling 51:21 The silent killer in relationships 55:35 Can a fractured relationship be healed? 1:01:47 The Imago Framework Links: OURS premarital counseling: https://www.withours.com Website: https://elizabethearnshaw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ OURS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ours.wellness/ Sponsors: Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	Your partner actually survived every day of their life before they met you.
0:05.5	And they had friends and they had a life and their house was fine.
0:11.5	You know, if they weren't as tidy as you, guess what?
0:14.7	They still survived in a house.
0:16.4	They're not wrong and you're not wrong either.
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