274: Heidi Grant - How To Get People To Help You (Reinforcements)

The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk

Ryan Hawk

Careers, Management, Business

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🗓️ 9 September 2018

⏱️ 55 minutes

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The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk

#274: Heidi Grant - How To Get People To Help You (Reinforcements)

The Learning Leader Show

"It's not about being good. It's about being better. Be in a constant state of continuous improvement."

Show Notes:

Commonalities of sustaining excellence:
- "All management is change management"
- "What's made you successful in the past may not be the case in the future."
- "How can I learn to be a better leader?'
- "A constant state of continuous improvement"
- "You've never arrived."
"It' not about being good. It's about being better."
"Focus on getting better, rather than being good."
Growth mindset helps you find enjoyment in what you do
"Focus on what you will do, not what you won't"
Willpower -- Need to be specific. Get to a level of specificiaty
Make steady progress
- "Have realistic optimism. I will succeed, but it will be hard."
How to define success?
- Intrinsic vs extrinsic goals:
  - A connected-ness to other people
  - Autonomy - Do what feels authentic
  - Being effective - Inherently get satisfaction by "I'm making things by making things happen in the world"
  - "Human beings are wired to to want to feel effective" -- It creates lasting happiness
Balance - Fundamental things stand in our way. "We all have issues with not being great at everything."
Why don't we ask others for help when we need it? The Milgrim subway experiement
What does a helper need from you?
- Must ask and help the helper be successful
Why we need to eliminate the phrase "Can I pick your brain?"
- Just say what you want. Be direct.
- Send questions in advance. Create opportunities for helpers to be effective
"When you ask someone for help, you're giving them the opportunity to feel amazing"
Reinforcements - Extra personnel sent to increase the strength of an army or similar force --> Something that makes a behavior more likely
Why joining The Learning Leader Circle is a good idea
Use the "Get To Know You Document"

"When you ask someone for help, you're giving them the opportunity to feel amazing."

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Episode 200: Keith Hawk & AJ Hawk -- Showing Up, Doing The Work, Earning Trust, Helping Others, Winning The Super Bowl, Celebrating #200

Episode 234: Jocko Willink -- Why Discipline Equals Freedom

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0:00.0	That message bothers me because it actually the research
0:06.0	suggests that that kind of thinking actually leads people to fail because they
0:10.3	don't prepare for reality they don't prepare for reality.
0:12.8	They don't expect there to be obstacles
0:16.2	and they don't make a plan for how
0:17.8	they're gonna achieve that reality.
0:19.7	So it's just vastly more powerful to be a realistic optimist and say, I believe in myself, I believe
0:26.6	I can make this happen.
0:28.0	I see the reality of the fact that this is going to probably be challenging because most valuable goals are
0:33.2	difficult to reach and I'm going to allow myself to have setbacks and I'm
0:38.7	going to learn from them and I'm going to plan for how to make this possible for myself.
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