272 | The 25 Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Each Other

Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew

Shawn Johnson + Andrew East

Society & Culture

5 • 39.8K Ratings

🗓️ 6 August 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Before you say "I do," ask these questions!. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the top 25 questions every couple should ask before getting married. From family dynamics and money to love languages and boundaries, these questions will help deepen your connection, spark vulnerability, and prepare you for the commitment of marriage. So whether you're dating, engaged, or already married, this conversation is for you! Love you guys! Shawn and Andrew Skims ▶ Shop my favorite bras and underwear at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows :) Chomps ▶ Get 15% off plus free shipping on your next order of Chomps meat sticks at Chomps.com with code SHAWN. Beam Kids is now available online at https://www.shopbeam.com/COUPLETHINGS Take advantage of our exclusive discount of up to 40% off using code COUPLETHINGS Subscribe to our newsletter ▶ https://www.familymade.com/newsletter Follow our podcast Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/shawnandandrewpods/ Follow My Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson Follow My Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@shawnjohnson Shop My LTK Page ▶ https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shawnjohnson Like the Facebook page! ▶ https://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson Follow Andrew’s Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast Andrew’s Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@andrewdeast?lang=en (00:00) why are we excited and passionate about this? (04:14) let’s get started — what does marriage mean to you? (06:06) if the answer is different, it doesn’t mean it’s over (07:19) how do you handle conflict? how do people around you handle conflict? (08:46) how was your parents' relationship? (10:06) kids? (12:02) what role does faith play in your life? (14:13) how do you handle money vs. how do you want to handle money? (16:57) what’s your love language? (18:37) expectations around sexual intimacy? (19:15) what are your political and social values, and what do they mean to you? (21:54) what do you envision our roles in marriage and our relationship to look like? (22:25) what are your biggest lifelong dreams and why? (23:40) how do you handle stress or mental health challenges? (24:29) have you ever been in therapy or counseling? are you open to it? (25:09) how do you handle opposite-sex friendships? (27:16) do you have any social media or phone communication boundaries? (27:33) how would you navigate a health crisis or job loss? (28:27) who are the most influential voices in your life right now, and do you see them sticking around? (28:38) what’s your relationship like with your family, and how involved do you want them to be in our life? (29:48) how do you recharge? (29:55) why do you want to marry or be with me? (30:40) how were you raised, and what do you want to replicate or change? (30:48) how would you deal with unexpected parenting challenges? (31:25) how much time do you want to spend together and/or apart? (31:58) do you have any debt or financial obligations i should know about? (34:21) what are your views on self-care? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What's up, everybody, and welcome back to a couple things.
0:02.3	With Sean and Andrew.
0:03.6	Today we are doing 25 questions to ask before you get married.
0:09.0	Must have conversations.
0:11.5	I'm excited about this because I'm not sure we had all these.
0:14.9	No.
0:15.3	And so this is coming from our nine years of marriage, maybe some difficult conversations
0:20.3	and topics that we talked
0:21.5	about that probably would have been better off if we talked about them before we said,
0:25.5	I do. And our premarital counseling. A lot of these are from that, from that, which really
0:29.8	opened our eyes to conversations that we weren't having that we should have had. And I will say
0:35.3	and encourage you guys, even though you might think it's awkward and like,
0:39.6	oh, we're just dating, we're not married. You should have these conversations because it's either
0:44.2	going to lead you to success in marriage or potentially a lot of frustration. Yeah. And there is
0:51.6	something to be said about just the psychological confidence
0:57.1	you have in making a quality choice when it comes to your spouse. And so the more signals you
1:03.7	could build and the positive direction of that, the better, right? Sean and I did premarital
1:08.7	counseling. That was extremely valuable because we had some of these
1:12.1	conversations and talked about some of these things where otherwise we might not have. So I would
1:17.2	just recommend putting yourself in whatever context, whatever situation you can to address
1:23.4	topics that otherwise might be a blind spot before you go into marriage. So like things like, hey, what's your parenting style going to be like?
1:33.3	Obviously, obviously what ends up happening might be different than what is projected,
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