268: 4 Self Care Ideas All Women Need

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 7 January 2025

⏱️ 14 minutes

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Summary

Saturday morning, I was working on my marriage while I was on the beach playing volleyball with my buddies Kevin, Rana, and Scott. And nope, neither of those guys is my husband—he was at home bingeing Viking shows.

It was ridiculously fun—and not just because my setting was on fire! 🌞 But here’s the thing: when I got home, sweaty and sandy, I was still glowing from all that fun—and guess who was happy to see me so happy? Yep, my husband, John, was grinning ear to ear to see me.

Back when my marriage was falling apart, I thought self-care—by myself—would only highlight how distant John was. I couldn’t see how it could possibly help our relationship. But I was wrong.

What I didn’t realize was that my unhappiness was making me pretty… resistible.

When I started practicing four specific types of self-care, everything changed.

Volleyball might not be your thing (I don’t get it, but we can still be friends!), but here’s the truth: every woman needs these four categories of self-care. If you’re not getting them, it could be costing you intimacy and connection—just like it was at my house.

Want to feel more magnetic and desirable in your relationship? In this episode, I share the four self-care ideas every woman needs.

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0:00.0	If you want to feel desired, taking care of, and special, these four self-care activities are
0:07.8	game changers. Now, what does self-care have to do with being adored in your marriage? Everything,
0:14.2	although I didn't used to know that in the bad old days, and especially number four, it's a big game
0:20.2	changer. So, let's get started. I'm Laura Doyle, New York Times bestselling author, and especially number four. It's a big game changer. So let's get started. I'm Laura Doyle,
0:23.4	New York Times bestselling author, and I was the perfect wife until I got married. I'm passionate
0:29.5	about showing women how to make their marriages playful and passionate without his
0:34.4	conscious effort, even if it seems hopeless. This is the Empowered Wife podcast where
0:39.7	happy wives share exactly what they did and said to make their struggling marriages last and
0:45.6	thrive. What's the first thing that comes to mind when you think of self-care? Do you think of a hot
0:51.6	bubble bath or is it like a code word? It means you should be exercising or is it something else entirely?
0:57.7	What do you think of for self-care? Share it in the comments below. And if you are listening to the audio version of this, then come on over to YouTube, do a search for Laura Doyle and join us in the conversation.
1:09.9	If you're not feeling adored and cherished in your
1:12.9	relationship, it feels pretty lonely and disappointing. I still remember how that felt. And then
1:17.8	you might be wondering, what does self-care even have to do with any of that? If he's not paying
1:23.0	attention to me and if he doesn't even want to touch me, which is where I was stuck. And I felt the same way.
1:29.3	I felt like self-care, I didn't want to do self-care. I wanted to have together care. I wanted
1:35.3	together time. And doing something by myself was just like further reminder that my husband
1:41.5	really wanted nothing to do with me. That just felt even lonelier. I had no idea
1:47.3	what the connection was between self-care and having a good marriage, but it turns out my husband
1:53.7	wants me to be happy. That's of utmost importance to him and to thousands of men that I've
2:00.1	interviewed. They all say it's very important for
2:02.3	their wives to be happy. And because I was so miserable all the time, my husband didn't know how
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