#267: How to Cultivate a Strong Romantic Relationship with Nick Solaczek

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 13 March 2023

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Themes: Relationships, Romantic Relationships, Relationship Struggles, Couples Therapy, Communication, Healing, Conflict Summary: Back for the second time is my good friend, Nick Solaczek. Nick is a relationship coach and teacher specializing in romantic relationships with an emphasis on safe conversations, conscious relationship principles, mindfulness, authenticity and boundary setting. Nick works closely with IMAGO theory in his practice, believing that the image we project has a significant influence on who we are attracted to and how we show up in our relationship. In this episode, we jam on how to create stronger romantic relationships, how our childhood experiences are responsible for many of our triggers in our adult relationships, the influence of fear and how it guides our actions, and more juicy relational truths. Tune in to hear Nick share mic-drops on how to communicate more clearly to ask for what we want and how to use struggle to strengthen our partnerships instead of drive us apart. Nick also teaches us about his relational theory, The Developmental Mountain, which he shares in depth in his new course: Romantic Relationship Reset. Get the link and a discount below! Discover: Core relational dynamics of romantic relationships and which ones you and your partner relate to How and why opposites attract when it comes to romantic relationships The power of fear and its presence in our interactions with our partners The benefits of both individual and couples therapy when it comes to long term relationships The power of IMAGO dialogue as a powerful method of communication for couples 00:00 Intro 02:12 How we have historically approached couples work 06:34 Romance is propagandized by culture 10:14 We all have conflicts in the kitchen 18:24 Relational dynamics of the Seeker, Maximizer, Minimizer 25:40 How childhood experiences show up in adult relationships 26:48 We show and respond to emotion differently 29:56 The power of fear 34:54 The struggle is normal 41:47 Ways to ask for what you want 48:01 Why we deal with things the way we do 50:35 The Developmental Mountain 57:32 The Relationship Reset Links: Special offer: $50 off Nick’s course "Romantic Relationship Reset" with promo code: CREATE50 Website: www.nicksolaczek.com Course: www.nicksolaczek.com/mark Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithnick Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	When people are in pain, they start to get defensive.
0:02.9	When we get defensive, we are really focused on protecting ourselves.
0:07.5	It's rarely physical safety.
0:09.5	It's usually a threat to our identity.
0:11.3	But when this happens, we get self-absorbed and we lose the sense of otherness.
0:19.2	Hi, my name is Mark Groves, and I'm obsessed with understanding human behavior and why we do what we do.
0:25.2	In this podcast, I interview the world's most brilliant minds and hearts where I get to explore alongside you,
0:31.1	every subject you can imagine relating to our human experience and how we relate.
0:35.2	It is my deepest intention that we all learn how to create the
0:38.3	life and love that we've always dreamt of. Now before we get rolling, make sure you hit that
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0:47.2	you can help support the podcast is by wherever you listen to it, giving it a five-star review
0:51.3	and a written review. With all that said, let's dive in and transform
0:55.3	our lives. Welcome back to the podcast, Nick Solichick. Thank you. Good to be here.
1:02.5	Dude, you're the couple's whisperer. I feel like that's a title. You have, last time you came on,
1:08.3	we talked about a lot of couple stuff and people love what you were putting down. So I'm like, I got to get you back on here because couples are still apparently having problems. Yeah, it's a thing. It's a thing. It's good to be back. I think that I will be working for a long time. And, you know, I love what I do. In terms of Whisperer, my partner and I do watch Disney Plus, Caesar Milan.
1:29.1	We're one of the Dodd Training videos, so I don't mind that title.
1:32.8	Well, you know, it's being able to walk people through or make sense of how individual stuff shows up in a couple stuff.
1:41.0	I find the one thing that's interesting when people first start exploring relational dynamics,
1:46.4	maybe as the individual coming forward for the couple or like with the challenges they're having.
1:53.2	Usually because the other person just may not be open to it.
1:56.7	I don't know what your experience is, but I find that often someone goes seeking the information to try to fix the thing in the relationship so that maybe the other person won't have to, too.
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