This is the Terry Cole show and as you might have guessed I'm your host Terry Cole

For over two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist love and boundaries

expert and I'm also the founder of the Rail of Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp.

On this show I'll bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology,

inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines in the

fascinating world of entertainment, empowerment, and mental health. Now let's get

going with today's episode. Well hello and welcome to the Terry Cole show. My name is

Terry Cole and I'm super psyched that you were hanging out with me today

If you happen to be new to this crew I am a psychotherapist a relationship expert and the founder of Real Love Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp.

And I'm also the proud author of my first book that is coming out April 20th of 2021.

It's called Boundary Boss, the essential guide to talk true, be seen, and finally live free.

So hello, how are you on this Chile November day?

At least it's Chile where I am in my neck of the woods.

I am very excited about our topic of conversation, which is giving ourselves permission to

end or modify relationships in our lives so that we can really regain bandwidth.

So this is a particular problem I see with my therapy clients, predominantly women, and not saying that this cannot happen to men, of

course it can. But where we stay in relationships too long, and I'm really not talking about just romantic relationships and sure it happens

there too. But there's something about and maybe it's my own experience because it certainly

is my own experience when I was in my 20s of having this hard

ingrained loyalty but I was kind of not discerning is what I'm trying to say

about who I would be loyal to.

So I felt it was almost like why I know exactly what was happening because I was in

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