My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by Hooker Crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there and just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever

means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girls Hill Podcast, where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and

resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and

then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns

and grow in your self-worth. I'm She Nila Shay, Love Edition coach and

Trauma Specialist. Let's begin.

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Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heall. As always, I'm overjoyed to be with you again this week and sharing in this week's episode. Today's episode I am talking

about three ways that we may secretly ignore and maybe even feed into red flags.

So a common thing that I hear from lots of folks

and even that we may have in our own personal,

you know, when reflecting back on relationships or situations that went wrong is like where did I miss that and how how did I get so deceived or you know I wonder if this was the moment that I could have said or done something differently to prevent what was happening

And I think a lot of times yeah sometimes it's clear that there are some things that we have

Overlooked and I think sometimes there are some things that we have overlooked and I think sometimes there are some habits that we have that we don't understand or we don't know is that is actually what's feeding into us keeping around people who have red flags. Things that are common habits that have not been clocked and told to us that this is what you're doing, that's making it even harder for you to distance yourself from people who may be toxic for you, when available to you, who don't have the best interest in you, but you don't

recognize it until you're already attached to them until it's already too late, right?

But not too late because it's ever,

you've ever spent too much time with people

to where you can't create boundaries.

I think that second cost fallacy is why a lot of us will stay in

friendships, stay in relationships, keep feeding into things with family members

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