You are listening to the Take a Break podcast with Rachel Hart episode 262.

Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit from the inside out.

We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink and why it can be hard to resist temptation.

No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking.

Now here's your host, Rachel Hart.

Hello everyone from Foggy San Francisco.

The foghorn has been going off for like 36 hours and it's a good thing I like it.

Anyway, we are talking about what happens when drinking is what you have in common with someone else.

So we're going to be talking a lot about connection today on the podcast.

I did a whole episode. One of my earliest episodes was all about connection.

I think it's number 34 because this can be a stumbling block for so many people who want to change the habit.

So they feel more connected to others when they drink because it lowers their inhibitions and then they're more talkative and it's easier to open up in it.

We just have this kind of belief in society that you know you have poor drink and it just kind of greases the wheels when it comes to connecting with other humans.

Now I just want to add because in my experience you know I've worked with thousands of people to help them change their relationship with alcohol.

That's not actually everyone's experience.

I have worked with people who will say you know what?

I drink because it has the opposite effect on me.

Because I actually worry that I'm too much, I'm too loud, I'm too over the top.

And when I drink it kind of helps me clam up a little bit because now I'm kind of worried about like what am I going to do, what am I going to say, how am I going to act?

Because now I have alcohol in my system.

So there are some people out there that find when they drink it actually helps them tone down or withdraw a little.

So I just want to add that because your experience really is unique to you.

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