262. Great Sex Grows – Shift Your Thinking
Female by Design
Francie Winslow
4.9 • 686 Ratings
🗓️ 4 May 2026
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Welcome to the Great Sex Grows series!
We're starting where it all begins: your mindset. Because here's the thing — it's not about what you wear, what time it happens, or what you do. When it comes to growing a beautiful sex life in marriage, your mindset matters most.
In this episode, Francie dives into three big ideas around shifting your thinking:
Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset. Do you come to this area of your marriage with openness and curiosity — or is there a quiet voice that says this is just how it is? A fixed mindset keeps you stuck. A growth mindset says not yet — and that little word changes everything.
Integrating your sexuality and your spirituality. For a lot of us, God was in one corner and sex was in another. But God made you as a whole person — mind, body, and spirit — and he's not ashamed of any of it. Inviting him into this area of your marriage? That's where real transformation begins.
Great sex requires practice. Take the pressure off. You're not supposed to have it all figured out. Great lovers are made, not born — and showing up as a learner, season after season, is exactly what growth looks like.
This episode is personal, practical, and full of the kind of honesty that will make you feel less alone and more hopeful about what's possible in your marriage.
Your mindset is the starting point. Let's shift it together.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Female by Design podcast, an honest space for female flourishing. |
| 0:07.8 | I'm Francie Winslow. |
| 0:09.9 | Together, we'll explore sexuality and spirituality by God's design, healing our relationship |
| 0:16.9 | with pleasure, our bodies, and our identity as beloved image bearers. So let's take a deep breath |
| 0:24.6 | and step into God's invitation to live fully alive as women, mind, body, and spirit. I'm so glad you're |
| 0:35.2 | here. Hey friends, welcome back to Female by Design. |
| 0:39.0 | This is Francie and you are in the beginning of a series called Great Sex Grows. |
| 0:44.3 | This episode is about Great Sex grows when we address our mindset, knowing that our mindset matters most, especially when it comes to sex. |
| 0:53.9 | And we address the question of, do you have a |
| 0:55.9 | growth mindset or a fixed mindset? I have found in my life that a growth mindset is actually |
| 1:01.8 | required, which means that I recognize that great sex does actually grow. And if I'm not growing |
| 1:08.1 | it, it often becomes stagnant or we drift apart. And so this invitation is to address and understand and explore our mindset as it relates to growth in our sexual relationship in marriage. It's an invitation to integrate God into your sex life, asking him to renew your mind and heal wrong thinking to |
| 1:28.7 | spur on creativity and connection. |
| 1:31.3 | I hope that you enjoy today's content. |
| 1:33.5 | And I also want to invite you, speaking of growth, to check out the resources on my website |
| 1:39.0 | that are all about growth. |
| 1:40.4 | I have two sections related to growth one called growth guides which are |
| 1:44.6 | shorter versions of helpful resources think like ebook printable PDFs and the other |
| 1:51.3 | growth area is growth courses that are door more master class level deep dives that |
| 1:56.6 | you could take with your husband it's about an hour or more of teaching plus Q&A plus |
| 2:02.3 | online resources. So both of those options are available. The one I want to highlight today, |
| 2:07.9 | I'm so thrilled to be offering a new resource called The Pleasure by Design Growth Guide. |
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