#261: Solitude, Friendship, & How NOT to Be an Excellent Sheep
The Art of Manliness
The Art of Manliness
4.7 • 14.8K Ratings
🗓️ 15 December 2016
⏱️ 49 minutes
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Summary
There’s a growing feeling amongst Americans that we’re suffering a crisis of leadership in our government, families, and businesses. People seem less independent and autonomous, and more directed by others. What's behind this lackluster leadership and what's the solution?
My guest today argues that the problem has to do with the way we're bringing up what he calls "excellent sheep," and that the solution is equal doses of deep solitude and deep friendship. His name is William Deresiewicz and he’s the author of several books and speeches, including A Jane Austen Education, Excellent Sheep, and Solitude and Leadership. Today on the show, William and I discuss what most so-called leaders get wrong about leadership and why learning to be alone with your thoughts helps forge better leaders. We discuss the history of friendship, why friends are so hard to make as an adult, and what you can do to form deeper relationships. William and I also talk about how young people can stop being “excellent sheep,” and jumping through the hoops other people put in front of them in order to start living on their own terms. We cap our conversation with an exploration on why men should give Jane Austen a chance and the life lessons we can get from her novels.
This is an eclectic, but wisdom-filled podcast. You're definitely going to hear something you'll end up mentally chewing on for days to come.
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| 0:00.0 | We're at McKay here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast. |
| 0:17.8 | There's a growing feeling amongst Americans that we're suffering a crisis of leadership, |
| 0:21.4 | not only in our government, but our families and our businesses. |
| 0:24.3 | People today just seem to have less independence or agency and are less autonomous and more |
| 0:28.6 | directed by others. |
| 0:29.9 | Let's behind this lackluster leadership and what's the solution? |
| 0:32.7 | Well, my guess they argue the problem has to do with the way we're bringing up what |
| 0:35.5 | he calls excellent sheep. |
| 0:37.4 | And the solution is equal to the deep solitude and deep friendship. |
| 0:41.0 | His name is William Dreseritz and he's the author, several books and speeches including |
| 0:44.4 | a Jane Austen education, excellent sheep and solitude and leadership. |
| 0:48.0 | And today on the show, William and I discuss what most so-called leaders get wrong about |
| 0:51.9 | leadership and why learning to be alone with your thoughts helps forge better leaders. |
| 0:55.7 | We discuss the history of friendship and why friends are so hard to make at his adult and what |
| 0:59.4 | you can do to form deeper relationships. |
| 1:01.4 | And then William and I also talk about how young people can stop being excellent sheep |
| 1:05.0 | and jumping through hoop after hoop that's put in front of them in order to start living |
| 1:08.6 | on their own terms. |
| 1:09.6 | And we cap our conversation with an explosion of why men should give Jane Austen a chance |
| 1:14.3 | and the life lessons we can get from her novels. |
| 1:16.8 | This is an eclectic but wisdom-filled podcast. |
| 1:19.2 | You're definitely going to hear something you'll end up mentally chewing on for days to |
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