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Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

26: My Child is Turning Into a Teenager. How Do I Handle It?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7824 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2021

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

When kids hit thirteen they often become highly emotional. What happens in the brain and the body during this time? Dr. Lisa explains and also talks about the process of "separation-individuation" where young people seek to define their own identities - often by being hard on their folks. Parents sometimes assume that age thirteen is the beginning of adolescence. But is it really? And how can you help a tween or teen who's having an emotional meltdown? Dr. Lisa has good news: the intensity of early adolescence doesn’t last forever and there are effective things parents can do to manage bumpy moments with their teen. BOOK GIVEAWAY: 14 Talks By Age 14: The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School; by Michelle Icard Enter to win one of 3 books being given away by @asklisapodcast. 1. Follow us on Instagram and/or Facebook @asklisapodcast 2. Tag a friend and leave a comment (on Instagram/Facebook) 3. Enter as many times as you'd like 4. For U.S. residents only (Give-away is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram/Facebook. It will close at 11:59 p.m. EST on 2/15/21. Winners will be chosen at random and will be notified within 24 hours of the end of the give-away. Books will be mailed to the winners.) See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Transcript

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0:00.0

This is Ask Lisa, a podcast to help people understand the psychology of parenting, now in the midst of a pandemic.

0:12.2

Psychologist Dr. Lisa DeMore, author of two New York Times best-selling parenting books, takes your questions.

0:19.7

And I'm co-host, Rina Ninan, a journalist and mom of two.

0:23.7

Some of what we talk about comes from raising children ourselves. Most of the time, I'll be

0:28.3

getting answers to your parenting questions. So send your questions to Ask Lisa at

0:33.5

Dr.Lisademore.com. Episode 26, my child is turning into a teenager.

0:39.5

How do I handle it?

0:45.3

I feel like everyone is so irritable.

0:48.4

I know we're at various phases of this pandemic,

0:50.9

but I'm at the incredibly irritable phase,

0:53.4

and I feel like we all are in my

0:55.2

household at this point. You know, the phrase I have seen over and over again on social media

1:00.8

and places is that sense of hitting a wall. Yeah. The people are just like, come on. Is this still going on?

1:09.9

I mean, I'm doing the chocolate, like you say,

1:11.9

something to look forward to in the afternoon,

1:13.9

as you recommended, planned a vacation,

1:16.5

might get canceled if we're not vaccinated in the summer.

1:20.1

But, you know, it makes me feel almost like right when I was becoming a teenager,

1:25.0

just cranky, and I'm like, at 41, am I, like, regressing here?

1:29.2

Have you become irritable and reactive like a young person?

1:32.8

Exactly.

1:33.7

I know that feeling all too well.

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