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Black Girls Heal

#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 27 August 2024

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.


Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in a long-term one, this episode is packed with tips to help you stay balanced and build stronger connections.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 01:33 Understanding Love Avoidance
  • 02:30 The different archetypes of intimacy disorders
  • 03:22 How to navigate love addiction and avoidance
  • 05:26 Practical tips for love avoidants
  • 10:12 Ways to share your life as a recovering love avoidant
  • 19:00 How to initiate compliments and kindness
  • 25:09 Why you should embrace vulnerability


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0:00.0

My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by Hooker Crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there just to bring it out.

0:21.0

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by

0:26.0

whatever means necessary.

0:28.6

Welcome to the Black Girls Hill podcast where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders and

0:34.4

resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and

0:38.5

then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow in your self work.

0:46.0

I'm She Nel Lache, Love Edition Coach and Trauma Specialist.

0:50.0

Let's begin.

0:54.0

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Hill.

0:58.0

I hope that you are shiny and thriving wherever you are and that you are doing well and feeling taken care of and feeling loved.

1:05.9

And if you're not feeling that way, I hope that you're able to step aside and spend some time

1:11.1

with yourself to figure out what is it that I need, what is it that I'm

1:14.3

yearning for, what is it that I'm craving, and give it to yourself. And if you're with partners, friends, family that are healthy and loving and want to love you, that you advocate for

1:25.8

yourself, that you ask, that you learn how to communicate those means to others and let them

1:31.3

in and let them love you too. So with that said today's episode we are

1:35.6

talking about what to do when you like someone as a love avoidant. This is my two-part

1:41.2

series where I'm talking to those of us who may be entering new romantic partnerships with partners as previously identified love addicts and love avoidance.

1:52.0

I am talking primarily to people who have been doing

1:55.1

the recovery work for this who have actively been working on challenging your

1:59.0

love addiction patterns specifically on your love avoidant patterns specifically and doing the root trauma work that causes it and now you're at a place where you are stable and you're entering into this new arena of doing relationships differently.

2:12.0

These are your first go-rounds,

2:14.0

and you are wanting to know how do I get closer to this partner

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