257: Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Cycles

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

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Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

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🗓️ 20 November 2020

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

How can you and your partner align your emotional and sexual cycles? We can be on different planets sometimes when it comes to these cycles, but when they align with each other they are more consistent. Finding an intersection between your emotional and sexual cycles requires both partners to take risks. However, you may not recognize each other’s attempts! Sexual pursuers often look for connection through physical touch...they are being vulnerable by initiating. They are trying to make repair without words, but the withdrawer may not see this attempt because they need words. The withdrawer may perceive it as their partner “only wanting them for sex” which can add to the pressure and make them pull away. The pursuer then perceives this as rejection to their attempt for connection. This miscommunication is what causes us to get lost in a negative cycle. When the withdrawer takes a risk to open up sexually and lower their defenses, they are also being vulnerable. Again, flexibility from both partners is key; having the mindset of “let’s see what can happen…” Sex can be a great repair; it can bring you closer together and help you get to a place of connection to then talk about hurt feelings and emotions with each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:07.8	So when we talk about pursuers and with drawers, both emotionally and sexually.
1:13.1	It's not necessarily a fixed point, right?
1:15.8	You're not always a pursuer and always withdraw
1:19.6	emotionally or sexually.
1:20.8	I mean, sometimes maybe there's a dominant style that we have but it's not a
1:25.1	fixed point. It's not the same as your attachment style.
1:28.1	Exactly and it's so important to start off with that flexibility. We all do some of both and really kind of
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