257. How To Have A 20 Minute Orgasm with Susan Bratton

Honeydew Me

Cassandra Anderson

Self-improvement, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 533 Ratings

🗓️ 11 March 2026

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Vulvas and vaginas aren't complicated or mysterious, we've just never been properly taught how to pleasure them. Until now. In this episode, we’re joined by Susan Bratton, intimacy expert to millions, educator, and longtime advocate for pleasure-forward sex education. Together we break down the anatomy of female arousal, the full erectile tissue system in the vulva, and why so many people misunderstand what our bodies actually need to experience deep pleasure. We talk about why arousal takes time, how the body physically changes during sexual stimulation, and why expanding our understanding of pleasure anatomy can completely transform the sexual experience for both partners. If you’ve ever wondered why foreplay matters so much, why stimulation can feel different depending on arousal levels, or how to create more pleasure in partnered sex, this conversation is for you Honey Bun. We Cover: The vulva’s erectile tissue system. Why arousal involves far more anatomy than just the clitoris and how engorgement changes sensation. How arousal physically changes the body. What actually happens to the vulva and vaginal tissues during sexual stimulation and why time and blood flow matter. Why many people with vulvas struggle to feel enough stimulation during sex. How misunderstandings about pleasure anatomy can lead to rushed arousal and less pleasurable experiences. The role of engorgement in pleasure. Why the body needs time and stimulation for tissues to swell and become more sensitive. How to build stronger arousal before penetration. Why extended stimulation and touch can dramatically change sensation and comfort. Understanding different pleasure pathways. How different types of stimulation activate different parts of the vulva and internal erectile tissue system. Why sex education often gets vulva anatomy wrong. The cultural and educational gaps that leave many people confused about how pleasure actually works in these bodies. How partners can support deeper pleasure. Simple mindset shifts that help couples slow down and explore arousal more intentionally. Resources: drivedesire.com expandherorgasmtonight.com 1:1 coaching with Cass & Em. Book a FREE strategy sesh HERE!⁠⁠ About Susan Bratton: Susan Bratton is a globally recognized intimacy expert, educator, and advocate for pleasure-positive sexuality. She has spent decades teaching people how to expand their understanding of arousal, connection, and pleasure in long-term relationships. Susan is known for translating complex sexual health concepts into practical, approachable tools that help couples experience more intimacy, communication, and satisfaction in their sex lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	One in a minute.
0:02.0	You're a jump shine when the light grows dim. See one, two, three, four, three, two, one. Because no one can do it like we do it, like who we do it, like we do it, like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Hello. And welcome to Honeydumee Podcast. I'm Emma. And I'm Cass and this is our podcast. We talk about
0:23.6	sex, relationships, mental health, all the things that we, I don't know, things should come pretty
0:28.7	easily, but don't. And then we feel embarrassed and awkward and ashamed because why are these things
0:34.5	not working for me when everybody else around me is having amazing sex and in an amazing relationship when really we're all having shitty sex sometimes.
0:43.2	So you just want to get into it with you and create a space that you know you're not alone.
0:47.8	We can just throw our hands in the air and be like, you know what?
0:50.0	Sometimes it's just weird.
0:51.0	And that's okay.
0:51.9	And that's okay.
0:53.1	Comparison truly is the thief of our pleasure, our joy.
0:57.3	Turns out that old saying is correct.
1:00.5	And we just want you to feel like, yeah, there's just multiple ways to achieve your dream sex
1:06.1	life.
1:06.4	And it's going to look different for everyone.
1:09.2	And for people like our guest today, Susan Bratton, it could look like a 20-minute pleasure practice to achieve a 20-minute orgasm.
1:20.8	What the fuck?
1:21.6	I want to get on that journey.
1:23.0	I want that one.
1:23.9	I know.
1:24.3	Not comparing myself.
1:25.6	I'm just saying I want it.
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