255: David Burkus - The Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life (Friend Of A Friend)
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Ryan Hawk
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🗓️ 29 April 2018
⏱️ 59 minutes
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The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk
Episode #255: David Burkus - The Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life (Friend Of A Friend)
David Burkus is a best-selling author, a sought after speaker, and business school professor. In 2017, he was named as one of the world’s top business thought leaders by Thinkers50.
The Learning Leader Show
"The fundamental element that defines the quality of our lives are the people we surround ourselves with and the conversations we have with them."
Show Notes:
- What defines a happy life?
- "The fundamental element that defines the quality of our lives are the people we surround ourselves with and the conversations we have with them. That's how you live a happy life."
- Adam Rifkin - The "strength of weak ties"
- The research suggests you have better odds of getting a job through a loose acquaintance than a close friend
- "Dormant ties" are very valuable to have in your life. Make a deliberate effort to reach back out to those people. Use a system to keep track of those relationships
- The research suggests you have better odds of getting a job through a loose acquaintance than a close friend
- This is the "what" and the "how" to get it done
- From "science" to "practice" -- The key to success is to be prescriptive. Give actionable advice
- The story of Michelle McKenna Doyle -- How she created her dream job in the NFL. 1 dormant tie - 1 degree of separation. "Most of us are only 1 or 2 introductions away from what we want..."
- Clusters - People tend to cluster around like minds. There is amazing power of small communities
- "Build your own stage, your own community"
- Super connector - Dunbar's # -- Brian Grazer
- Having regular curiosity conversations -- That is how he met Ron Howard
- Never ask the question, "How can I help you?" Figure out how you can help someone else, then help them. Don't put the onus on them.
- Always think, "who does this person need to meet?" And make connections
- In a networking situation, don't just ask - "What do you do?" -- Try to learn more about them as a person, not just their job
- "What excites you right now?
- Who's your favorite super hero?"
- Where did you grow up?"
- Be interested in order to be interesting
- "We feel guilt when we no longer want to associate with old friends and colleagues who haven't changed. The price, and marker, of growth." - Naval Ravikant
- How David and his wife measured their friendships and peer group -- They made lists
- How to give a TED Talk? -- Practiced it hundreds of times, hired a coach
- Go to www.DavidBurkus.com/Ryan
Social Media:
- Follow David on Twitter: @davidburkus
- Read: Friend of A Friend
- Go to: DavidBurkus.com/Ryan
- Connect with me on LinkedIn
- Join our Facebook Group: The Learning Leader Community
- To Follow Me on Twitter: @RyanHawk12
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| 0:00.0 | The way to create value is to first understand that your network is not a collection of contacts in your phone. |
| 0:07.0 | Your network already exists and you're just a part of it. |
| 0:10.0 | And the way that you start creating value is to realize that your job is to serve that network |
| 0:14.9 | Usually that means by connecting people or by helping somebody find a cluster or community they need |
| 0:19.7 | But it's to serve the network as a whole not to just give to one person and then keep track of it and when you've had enough gives to make a withdrawal to do it. |
| 0:27.6 | No, just worry about the network and everything will kind of take care of itself. Welcome to the Learning Leader Show. |
| 0:35.8 | I am Ryan Hawk. |
| 0:38.2 | Thank you so much for being here. |
| 0:39.6 | It is Mindful Monday. |
| 0:41.3 | Text. |
| 0:42.3 | Learners to 4.42.2 in order to join thousands of other fellow |
| 0:46.8 | learning leaders from all over the world. Text learners to 4.4.22. Now Now on tonight's featured leader it's with my friend David |
| 0:56.7 | Berchis best-selling author sought after speaker and business school professor in |
| 1:02.0 | 2017 he was named as one of the world's top business |
| 1:06.7 | thought leaders by thinkers 50 incredible congrats to Dave for that of the topics we got into, we discussed his latest book titled, |
| 1:15.2 | Friend of a Friend Understanding the Hidden Networks that can transform your life and your career. |
| 1:23.0 | Also got into the fundamental element that determines the quality of your life. |
| 1:30.0 | Then the best and worst questions to ask when meeting someone for the first time and |
| 1:35.1 | then how you can become a super connector actions to take to make it happen. |
| 1:41.5 | Ladies and gentlemen you'll get a lot out of this one with David |
| 1:45.2 | Burcas. |
| 1:49.2 | Where a lot of people get hung up and or pigeonhole this idea of networking connections |
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