254: What if your father annihilated the family?
This Is Actually Happening
Wondery
4.6 • 9.9K Ratings
🗓️ 8 November 2022
⏱️ 68 minutes
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Summary
A woman grows up in a home chronically terrified by her father’s abuse, but when her parents split and he starts another family, she learns of the true, horrifying danger she was in her entire life.
Today's episode featured Lisa Nikolidakis. You can read much more about this story in her incredible memoir, No One Crosses the Wolf. You can also find out more about Lisa on Instagram @lisanik or on Twitter @lisanikol, and check out her other award-winning essays, at lisanikolidakis.com
Content/Trigger Warnings: domestic violence, sexual abuse, incest, suicidal ideation, eating disorder, self-harm, graphic scrime scene detail, murder, death, explicit language
Producers: Whit Missildine
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| 0:00.0 | This is actually happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
| 0:04.2 | Please consult the show notes for specific content warnings on each episode |
| 0:07.6 | and for more information about support services. |
| 0:18.6 | If you've ever jumped into water thinking it's steep, |
| 0:22.6 | but in reality it's shallow, it just hits your entire body |
| 0:28.0 | has that reverberating awfulness? That's what it felt like. |
| 0:44.1 | From Wondry, I'm Whit Missaldine. You are listening to this is actually happening. |
| 0:49.8 | Episode 254 |
| 1:00.7 | What if your father annihilated the family? |
| 1:08.8 | Hello, I'm Matt Ford. |
| 1:10.1 | And I'm Alice Levine and we're the hosts of British Scandal. |
| 1:13.8 | This season we're taking a deep dive into the world of one of the most scandalous Prime Ministers |
| 1:19.1 | Britain has ever seen. Boris Johnson. |
| 1:22.1 | The most scandalous so far. Good caveat. |
| 1:24.6 | Follow British Scandal wherever you listen to podcasts or listen one week early and add free |
| 1:29.4 | by subscribing to Wondry Plus in Apple podcasts or the Wondry app. |
| 1:34.1 | It's hard to imagine losing a loved one, a wife, a husband, a child. |
| 1:38.5 | For many it's their biggest fear. |
| 1:40.6 | Amarissa Jones host of The Vanished. |
| 1:43.1 | A podcast that tells the stories of often overlooked and unsolved missing persons cases |
| 1:47.8 | in an effort to uncover the truth. |
| 1:50.0 | Listen to The Vanished on Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts. |
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