252 SelfWork: Is My Depression Me Or Is It My Relationship?
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 1 October 2021
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
Today I want to focus on the confusion that anyone can have about what's causing their depression. And the important question is, "Is it me or is it my relationship?" The episode is in answer to an email I received from a 20-something listener but is a confusing problem for many. They write, “I would love to not receive a solution, but just gain some perspective on what you believe would be wise for me to do.” Well, that’s good because I’m not sure I can offer a solution. But I’ll see what research says and add my input.
Today’s listener email is also about relationships and regaining trust. The listener writes, “Everything I wanted is now mine.” But she’s struggling with resentment after her husband had an affair. So in this episode, sponsored by Athletic Greens (now known as AG1!) , we’ll be focusing on relationships and the hurdles that many face within them. Welcome as always to SelfWork!
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An early SelfWork podcast on healing after an affair and regaining trust
Psychology Today article on the "seven year itch"
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.6 | Hi, and welcome or welcome back to Selfwork. |
| 0:32.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist. |
| 0:35.4 | I've lived and worked in fave Arkansas now for almost 30 years. |
| 0:39.2 | And I'm delighted to be here with you on Selfwork today. |
| 0:43.0 | I started this podcast now five years ago with the intent to extend the walls of my practice |
| 0:48.8 | to those of you who might already be seeing someone in therapy or you're just interested in |
| 0:53.4 | psychological issues to those of you who are looking for answers because you may have been |
| 0:58.0 | diagnosed with something or you have a family member that you're concerned about |
| 1:02.9 | or to those of you who might tell your friends or the people you work with, |
| 1:07.8 | oh, I think that therapy stuff is a bunch of junk. |
| 1:11.0 | But you're curious enough or unhappy enough to be looking for answers. |
| 1:15.4 | I welcome all of you. |
| 1:17.4 | Today, I want to focus on the confusion that anyone can have about their relationship. |
| 1:22.5 | It's based on an email I received from a 20-something listener, |
| 1:25.8 | but it's a problem that's encountered by many. |
| 1:28.3 | Basically, the question becomes, is my depression about my relationship or is it me? |
| 1:34.2 | And that question could be hard to answer for sure. |
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