251. What To Say In Conflict For Calmer Communication w/ Rikki Cloos
Dating Intentionally
Talia Koren
4.7 • 596 Ratings
🗓️ 3 April 2026
⏱️ 58 minutes
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I'm chatting with Rikki Cloos, the creator and author of Anxious Hearts Guide, one of the most grounded, accessible resources out there for healing insecure attachment. We're discussing communication mistakes most of us make without realizing it, why the words we say rarely match what we actually mean, and how that gap affects relationships. Rikki also shares her framework for improving communication and the seven relationship agreements she has with her husband. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who's been in couples therapy for months but is somehow feeling more distant from her partner.
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| 0:00.0 | Being able to show up on dates and keep going in your dating life requires energy. It requires |
| 0:05.4 | emotional and mental and physical capacity. And one thing I've learned is that protecting that |
| 0:10.1 | capacity starts with the basics, sleep, movement, and of course, eating well. When I'm depleted |
| 0:14.9 | and I don't want to think about food at all, I am not showing up as my best self anywhere, |
| 0:19.4 | including in my relationship. |
| 0:24.6 | So I've gotten really intentional about removing the things that drain me. |
| 0:28.7 | And as much as I love cooking, some days I just need to skip it. |
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| 0:44.8 | no artificial sweeteners, no refined seed oils, just the good stuff that your body needs. We recently |
| 0:50.6 | tried their country herb chicken and potato leak mash that came with corn and zucchini. |
| 0:55.3 | And this was so good. |
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