250: What if a devastating truth only deepened the mystery?
This Is Actually Happening
Wondery
4.6 • 9.9K Ratings
🗓️ 11 October 2022
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
Growing up Black and queer in the South, a man finds an identity for himself through the arts and establishes a wonderful marriage with children, until one day, when his husband is late coming home, there’s a ring at the door and his entire life unravels.
Content/Trigger Warnings: use of a derogatory racial slur, use of a derogatory homophobic slur, mention of gun violence, mention of suicide, mental illness, drug use, drug overdose, explicit language
Producers: Whit Missildine, Sara Marinelli
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Intro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is actually happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
| 0:04.2 | Please consult the show notes for specific content warnings on each episode |
| 0:07.6 | and for more information about support services. |
| 0:16.8 | I have never felt so utterly broken. |
| 0:22.2 | Absolutely just lost out of time. It was just like everything stopped. |
| 0:30.0 | The world stopped and nothing made sense. |
| 0:38.1 | From wandering, I'm Whit Missildine. You are listening to this is actually happening. |
| 0:51.2 | Episode 250. What if a devastating truth only deepened the mystery? |
| 1:10.3 | You're listening Add Free on Wondery Plus. |
| 1:14.2 | Hi, I'm David Brown, the host of Wondery's podcast business wars. |
| 1:17.5 | In our latest series, two visionary automakers each believe they can beat Detroit |
| 1:23.1 | and build America's favorite cars. Listen to business wars on Amazon Music or wherever you |
| 1:28.9 | get your podcasts. |
| 1:33.4 | When I tell people about my background, I usually give them a thumbnail sketch that I grew up a skinny |
| 1:51.6 | feminine black gay boy in the south during the Reagan era. And I have a scars to prove it. |
| 1:57.9 | I was the middle child in my family. I have an older brother, 12 years older than me, |
| 2:07.6 | and a younger sister who's about 22 months younger than me. |
| 2:11.0 | I grew up in a loving family. With parents who loved each other, they were married for 50 years. |
| 2:20.1 | My dad was retired military. My mom was a stay-at-home mom. They met at church. I was raised |
| 2:31.7 | Baptist and that was the source later on of some angst in my life about the time that I started |
| 2:40.3 | to realize that I was different from most of the other little boys. I just didn't know what it was. |
| 2:51.3 | I think I was about in the second or third grade, and my school was doing a production of the |
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