#246 Vanessa Marin - Sex Doctor Explains Why Bad Sex Destroys Marriages and How to Prevent It

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Shawn Ryan Show

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🗓️ 20 October 2025

⏱️ 141 minutes

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Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience specializing in sex therapy, holding bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master’s in counseling psychology. Working alongside her husband Xander, she provides practical tools and courses to help couples strengthen their relationships and enhance intimacy through their platform Vanessa and Xander. A New York Times bestselling author of "Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life," Vanessa has been featured in outlets like The New York Times, O Magazine, and Harper’s Bazaar. She co-hosts the "Pillow Talks" podcast, offering advice on sex, relationships, and communication, and has amassed millions of views on her YouTube channel debunking myths and promoting healthy discussions Shawn Ryan Show Sponsors: https://americanfinancing.net/srs NMLS 182334, nmlsconsumeraccess.org. APR for rates in the 5s start at 6.327% for well qualified borrowers. Call 866-781-8900, for details about credit costs and terms. https://betterhelp.com/srs This episode is sponsored. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/srs and get on your way to being your best self. https://calderalab.com/srs Use code SRS for 20% off your first order. https://shawnlikesgold.com https://helixsleep.com/srs https://ketone.com/srs Visit https://ketone.com/srs for 30% OFF your subscription order. https://patriotmobile.com/srs https://ROKA.com – USE CODE SRS https://simplisafe.com/srs https://tractorsupply.com/hometownheroes https://ziprecruiter.com/srs Vanessa Marin Links: Website - https://vmtherapy.com/shawn IG - https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander X - https://x.com/VMTherapy YT - https://www.youtube.com/vanessamarin Podcast - https://vmtherapy.com/podcast Book (Sex Talks) - https://sextalksbook.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Vanessa Mowran, welcome to the show.
0:08.0	Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here.
0:11.4	Well, me too. We cover a lot of dark stuff on this show, so I wanted to lighten it up a little
0:16.6	bit, and I thought you'll be a perfect guest, And so here we go. It's going to be all about
0:22.8	sex therapy. Yeah. And I just want to say, I really appreciate you being willing to open up this
0:27.7	conversation. It's a tough one for so many people. And, you know, what I can say, having been in this
0:33.8	field for over 20 years and talking to hundreds of thousands of people, I think so
0:39.2	many of us are desperate for more from our relationships. We want more connection, more closeness,
0:46.1	more intimacy. And so many of us are wondering, like, what happened to that couple who was
0:52.3	madly in love who couldn't keep their hands off of each other?
0:56.0	Like, what have we become now?
0:58.0	And so I've really made it my mission to try to bridge that gap in relationships, to try to help save relationships.
1:06.0	So the good news is there are a lot of really practical things that we can do to recreate that intimacy.
1:12.4	So my goal is that by the end of this episode, your audience is going to feel inspired.
1:17.2	They're going to feel motivated.
1:18.3	And they're going to have a couple of practical tools that they're excited to start putting
1:22.0	to use right away.
1:23.1	Man, I love to hear that.
1:25.3	It's just nice to have a lighter subject to talk about.
1:28.0	Yeah.
1:29.3	Do you know who Dr. Rina Malick is?
1:32.1	Yeah, I do.
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