245: When "Mom-Guilt" Is Healthy
Now That We're A Family
Elisha and Katie Voetberg
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🗓️ 12 December 2023
⏱️ 48 minutes
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"Mom-guilt" is a subject I really like to speak about, because we can get condemnation, guilt, shame and conviction all lumped into one pile. When we sort through them, we are able to determine what is conviction, condemnation and how the two types of guilt can flow into either funnel. We can then determine how we can take action on that. We think there is a healthy guilt and an unhealthy guilt. Usually this term is related to moms, but really can be parent guilt, marriage guilt and all kinds of guilt. If you’ve felt guilty or have never felt guilty (and you probably should), then this episode is for you! :)
We got this episode idea from a question we recently got from an Instagram follower during a Q&A poll - "How to overcome the guilt of leaving children with caregivers (like grandparents) for events?"
This questions is specifically about how you do it. The first thing you should do is go to Scripture. That is the way you should do everything! You should go to Scripture and say “What is God’s hierarchy and what does He say should be my priority here? Should this thing be my priority in this season or should it not?” It really is seasonal depending on what age your children are in. The only exception to this rule, that I would encourage, is you can’t put your marriage on pause for any season of life. Regardless of how hectic, hard or a big deal financially it is, you can’t just say we will come back to this in five years. You can’t get those five years back.
If you’re getting confused when it comes to raising your children and things are getting cloudy, I think the healthiest thing I did was be off of social media, so I am not seeing other women’s opinions on how they’re raising their children. As long as you have a loving, God-fearing husband, the only voices that you need and pertain to your situation are the Lord’s (getting in Scripture) and your husband’s voice.
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| 0:00.0 | So we're talking today about mom guilt. This is a subject that I really like to speak about |
| 0:06.1 | because we can get condemnation and guilt and shame and conviction all lumped into one pile. And when we sort through them and we're able to determine |
| 0:15.7 | what is conviction, what is condemnation, and what are the two types of guilt that can flow |
| 0:21.9 | into either funnel. I think there is a healthy |
| 0:24.5 | guilt and an unhealthy guilt. Then we can determine how to take action on that. |
| 0:28.6 | And so today we're talking about guilt. Usually this term is related to moms, but it really can be parent guilt. It could be |
| 0:37.6 | marriage guilt. It could be all kinds of guilt. So stay tuned. If you feel guilty or if you've never felt guilty, you probably should. of YouTube for all of December we are posting three times a week so you will see us |
| 0:54.4 | Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday and if you're listening on Apple iTunes or on Spotify |
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| 1:08.1 | our review. |
| 1:08.8 | Those mean so much to us as we close the year out. The now that we're a family podcast. |
| 1:20.0 | Wow Katie I feel like you said so much in the intro there was like so much content that was |
| 1:25.6 | delivered just right there in the introduction to the episode so I'm really |
| 1:29.4 | actually excited to hear what you have to say on this subject because when I brought it up it was a |
| 1:33.8 | question that we got maybe this week or last week and again I've said this before |
| 1:38.4 | before but thank you all for participating in these Q and A's that we do on |
| 1:41.9 | Instagram because it really does give us food for thought |
| 1:45.2 | and different things to consider and to speak to here on the podcast but this question |
| 1:50.0 | was was worded like this and I appreciate the way that it was worded it says how to |
| 1:54.4 | overcome the guilt of leaving children with caregivers like grandparents for |
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