All right, you guys, welcome back to episode six of our ongoing emotionally focused couples therapy with Lee Conant.

Hi.

Lee, I love it.

I'm so glad to be here.

Oh, my God.

Learning so much every single week.

This episode I'm also very

excited about because this is sort of around love language, which also is another one where my

girlfriends, lots of my girlfriends have all bought the book. I mean, you know, you've probably

heard the very famous book about finding your couple love language and how important that is.

And, you know, I've never read that book. You know, we sort of

learned our love language when we, when Dan and I came to therapy with you. But tell us what that is.

Is that kind of a buzz term? Does it really exist? So the five love languages was developed by

Dr. Gary Chapman. And it's actually been around for a long time.

Yes, yes.

And I actually hear couples all the time when they come into my office, they'll talk about their love language.

And also, I've worked in the military community, too, my husband's military as well.

And we know a lot of chaplains use this in their premarital counseling or in their

couple's retreat weekends. And so the five love languages can be a really great start for couples

just to become aware that they're different, that maybe what one person, how they feel loved

and cared for from their partner is different

from what the other person needs to feel loved and cared for. And Dr. Chapman's idea, I think,

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