Hello friends, you are listening to the lazy genius podcast. I'm Kendra and I'm here to help you be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't.

Today's episode, episode number 24, the lazy genius gets an attitude adjustment about her cooking because we all need it sometimes.

So here's the pitch for today. Okay, dinner panic is real, right? It happens to the best of us at the worst times, it seems.

And a lot, right? When it's four o'clock, five o'clock, even six o'clock, and we're like, what are we having for dinner? There's that panic all the time.

So if that circumstances isn't going to change, then maybe our attitudes should change.

So today, in this episode, in the playbook, we are going to attack three attitudes and adjust them. So let's do this.

Alright, so let's begin with our first attitude that might need changing. And that is that our expectations are super justified.

Okay, we believe that what we think should happen at dinner time, whether it's the type of food, the flavor of the food, the cost of the food, how quickly it comes together, or the people who are going to eat it, their pleasant attitudes about eating it, their praise and validation that might come.

I think that we all have these really dormant expectations when we come around the table. And we might not really should have those because here's what happens.

If you focus on, let's say the food, okay, whether it's going to be tasty, whether everybody's going to like it, all that.

If you focus on the food more than say the family or the friends or whoever is around that table, then the entire meal, the entire experience rests very precariously on what food you choose.

I think that's why we have so much panic. It's like, what am I going to make for dinner? What am I going to feed these people that's going to make them not yell at me or throw their food on the floor?

Hopefully this only applies to you if you have like seven year olds and under if you only live with grown people and this happens, I'm so sorry.

But if we put so much pressure on the actual food choice, we're going to be super panicked and super stressed and our expectations aren't going to be met because not everybody's going to like the same thing.

Not every recipe is going to turn out exactly the way we think it is. Like the food, yes, the food is important. But if you make the food the most important thing, you're setting yourself up for failure every time you just are.

And even those days where you might make something that is incredibly delicious that everyone loves, even then you're setting yourself up for an expectation that every meal after that, every food choice that you make after that has to count just as well, be just as successful.

You're putting so much focus on the food. Now granted, the meals where everyone enjoys the food more than likely the attitudes are going to be pretty good around the table.

You know, everyone's going to be pleasant. Oh, this is so delicious. Honey, how was your day or you know, whatever you guys say your table.

But I would like to, hmm, posit to you, something the correct word to use. I would like to posit that the success of that meal really wasn't the food.

The food kind of set the stage in terms of making everybody a little bit happier.

But that is problematic because if everybody's happiness rests on the food that you actually eat, then dinner is going to be disappointing often.

Because I don't care how good of a cookie are. I don't care how organized you are. You're going to have meals that are crap. You're going to have meals that fail miserably because it's just the way it goes.

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