During that time I just was just like someone unplugged me from the wall and I just fell

into a dark pit I just had no energy to do anything and ended up in a really huge time of suicidal

depression where I just felt like all the work I'd done on myself and all the acts of courage I'd done on myself and all the acts of courage I'd taken and all the decisions I'd done that was honoring my heart was and I still hadn't got I felt like I hadn't got anywhere I was like okay well I'm still here I'm still in pain emotional pain I'm

still financially not strong I'm still not knowing where I belong and yeah and so it got

really bad.

Hi friends and welcome back to at the end of the tunnel the podcast about hope and more

specifically about regular people who've started extraordinary movements for

social good and this week I'm talking to brawny, a former palliative nurse who wrote this article in 2009 called

The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

And little did she know it would go viral being viewed over 8 million times and it helped to change the way that many of us now think about death.

So Bronny had a very interesting journey. She grew up in rural Australia where she was the lone

vegetarian in a meat-eating family. I know what that feels like and she tried the

regular job thing as many of us do, but it just wasn't working for her, no pun intended. So she

quit her job and she started no matting around before no matting was even a thing and

that's how she found her way into palliative care because she needed a place to stay and one

woman who gave her room and board ended up transitioning and that's what palliative care means.

You look after dying patients in the last three to 12 weeks before their transition.

So as it turned out, Ronnie was a natural at helping people transition. Her goal was just to treat everyone that she looked after like

they were her grandmother. In the process she observed how much people grow when faced with their own

mortality and how each person experiences a variety of emotions such as denial and fear and

anger and remorse and then more denial and then eventually acceptance.

And she reported that every single patient she worked with found their peace before they departed, every single one of them.

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