2379: A Couple's Guide to Complaining by John Beaty with the Gottman Institute on Conflict Resolution in Relationships
Optimal Finance Daily - Financial Independence and Money Advice
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🗓️ 16 July 2023
⏱️ 8 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | This is Optimal Finance Daily Episode 2379, a couple's guide to complaining by John |
| 0:07.4 | B.A.D. with Gotman.com and I'm your host and personal finance enthusiast, Diana Mariam. |
| 0:14.5 | Welcome back to another bonus Sunday episode. |
| 0:17.5 | This is where we get to hear from one of the other shows in our podcast network and today |
| 0:21.5 | is comes from Optimal Relationships Daily. |
| 0:24.8 | So with that, here's Greg as we optimize your life. |
| 0:29.3 | A couple's guide to complaining by John B.A.D. of Gotman.com. |
| 0:38.3 | My wife Tammy felt angry. |
| 0:40.6 | All you do after you get home from work and eat dinner is sit on the couch. |
| 0:44.5 | Why can't we talk or take a walk together or do both? |
| 0:48.5 | Couples will always have complaints about each other. |
| 0:51.2 | Unfortunately, instead of expressing their complaints, they resort to criticizing each |
| 0:55.9 | other. |
| 0:56.9 | Unchecked criticism leads to contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. |
| 1:01.4 | Dr. John Gotman calls these the four horsemen of the apocalypse and when couples fall prey |
| 1:06.5 | to the four horsemen, it can lead to divorce. |
| 1:09.9 | Tammy's criticism provoked me to defend myself. |
| 1:12.5 | We were almost three years into our marriage and hadn't yet learned how to effectively |
| 1:17.3 | air our complaints about each other. |
| 1:19.8 | I'm tired, I said. |
| 1:21.8 | As a substance abuse counselor, I spend all day listening to people. |
| 1:25.4 | Why can't you let me relax? |
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