Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. This may have never happened to you, but if we've lived long enough,

we're going to see sometimes things that happen to people or ourselves that are ever so challenging and just hard, simply hard.

And as a clinical psychologist now helping people for over 35 years, I've seen a lot of things, a lot of very challenging

situations that happen to people, and in some instances they get so difficult the person would rather die than keep going forward.

So this podcast is to give hope or tools when we or we know someone is going through a very difficult time. But before I

get into the three things that we can do when we're going through incredibly difficult

times, I want to encourage all of us to be very careful.

Careful on two fronts. When we see someone going through a really difficult time,

it is not helpful, it is not kind.

There's just nothing good about judging them.

No matter what they did to contribute to their current and happiness.

I don't feel it's helpful to be judging them.

But the same is true for us.

It is not helpful when we make decisions

that have incredibly horrible consequences to them,

to be judging ourselves from them.

We can learn from them, but not judge ourselves

because that isn't helpful to ourselves or anyone else.

The tendency is when we judge others, however we judge them, we'll judge ourselves more harshly. But the second thing is when we do judge ourselves,

we have a tendency to repeat what we did instead of learn from it. And in life, we want to learn and grow

and not stay stuck.

So let's not judge others.

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