This is Optimal Finance Daily, Episode 2355, getting to the root of your anger by

Rosalind Palmer of Rosalind Palmer.com, and I'm your host and personal finance

enthusiast, Diana Mariam. Welcome back to another bonus Sunday episode. This is

where we get to hear from one of the other shows in our podcast network, and

today is comes from Optimal Relationships Daily. So with that, here's Greg as

we optimize your life.

Getting to the root of your anger by Rosalind Palmer of Rosalind Palmer.com

In my book Reset, I openly admit to being angry, often in the past, and even

breaking things when I reached a boiling point. Recently I had occasion to get

angry again, something I hadn't done for a long time. It made me look at this

emotion. I tell my clients that it is a secondary emotion. This means that we

tend to use anger as a dynamic shield to protect us from the primary

emotions fueling it below the surface. You can learn to identify these primary

emotions by recognizing what you felt immediately before the anger kicked in.

Usually, these will include the likes of feeling fear, being hurt physically or

emotionally via harsh criticism, for example, finding offense, or a feeling of

being disrespected, trapped, or frustrated at not being able to get what you

want. In a therapy session, I spend a lot of time working out with the client

what these underlying trigger emotions are. So back to me reaching boiling point

recently. Well, as someone going through menopause, I would say in my defense

that this is closer than it used to be years ago. In truth, I realized that anger

is part of the human experience, and I now say to myself, I am angry because I

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