235: My Husband's Mental Illness is Ruining Our Marriage

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 21 May 2024

⏱️ 54 minutes

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It’s so discouraging when your husband is diagnosed with something like ADD, OCD, narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or Dissociative Disorder. Having hitched your wagon to someone with a disorder or deficit can feel like a life sentence of misery. It’s very distressing. Even if you don’t have a formal diagnosis, maybe you’ve done some reading about what you observe in him and you have strong suspicions. While it’s hard to find this out after you’re married, it’s also intriguing because having a diagnosis holds out the promise that he could improve with some kind of treatment, like medicine or therapy. At least that’s how I felt when my husband got his diagnosis, but it all went wrong from there. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about what to do instead when your husband’s disorder is ruining your marriage.

Plus, my guest Katherine’s husband waited until the kids were teens when he said he wanted to separate, which left her feeling abandoned and scared. But that was then. Today he seeks her out, says she’s beautiful and that he is so lucky to have her as his wife. How did Katherine make such a dramatic change in her marriage? She’s going to tell us so you can do it too.

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0:00.0	today on the Empowered Wife podcast.
0:02.8	My husband had a big fight with my son and kicked him out.
0:06.8	And I was so scared, he was only 16.
0:10.8	He said he had been saving for his runaway money anyway, so didn't matter he can just leave.
0:19.0	I was really scared and but really grateful that my parent at that time was on vacation
0:26.4	so he stayed in my parents place for a couple weeks and I saw my boys, his great average was like in almost 90s, but he felt his first test ever.
0:40.0	And the next one was like 60 or something. I felt really devastated.
0:45.6	Not my husband regretted and he swapped different places with my son, with our son,
0:51.8	because he was not willing, because our boys because he was not willing because our boys were not willing to live with his
0:57.0	dead so end up this walk places so my husband moved out and my son in order for my son to move back. And I felt so helpless that
1:06.9	seemed like everything I had been trying to patch was falling apart. apart. Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without
1:21.0	your man's conscious effort so that you feel desired and
1:24.7	taken care of and special even if your relationship feels hopeless right now.
1:29.9	I'm Laura Doyle and today we're talking about what to do if your husband's mental illness
1:34.8	is ruining your marriage.
1:37.1	My guest, Catherine, had children who were only teenagers when her husband asked her to separate, which left her feeling abandoned and scared.
1:46.9	But that was then.
1:48.7	Catherine made some big changes and today her husband seeks her out.
1:52.4	He says she's beautiful and that he is so lucky to have her as his wife.
1:57.0	How did she make such dramatic changes in her marriage? Well, she's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too. But first
2:04.6	let's talk about what to do if your husband's mental illness is ruining your
2:09.1	marriage because it feels so discouraging and heavy when your husband is diagnosed with something like
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